Femininity: Why Do Some Women Criticise Women Who Act Feminine?

In the same way that there are men who are more feminine than masculine, there are also women who are more masculine than feminine. Now, if someone believes that men are an expression of the masculine and women are an expression of the feminine, it can be hard for them to understand why this is the case.

However, if someone believes that both men and women are made up of both energies, this is not going to be something that is hard for them to get their head around. So, if a man/woman was to behave in a way that doesn’t match up with their physical appearance, it is unlikely to faze them.

A Different World

And over the years, a fair amount of men have developed traits that are associated with the feminine and a fair amount of women have developed traits that are associated with the masculine. As a result of the traits that these women have embraced, it has allowed a number of them to achieve a certain amount of material success in a society that values the masculine more than the feminine

One way of looking at this would be to say that a lot of women have been able to liberate themselves. Instead of having to rely on a man to provide for them; they have been able to do this for themselves.

The Only Difference

And while some women have become more balanced, others have more or less lost touch with their feminine aspect. A woman like this can then look like a woman, but she can have a very strong masculine energy.

Through being this way, she can have a strong need to be in control and to make everything happen through force. It is then unlikely that she will have the ability to surrender to life or to trust that it will give her what she needs.

All Areas

If someone was to take a look at how she lives her life, they may come to see that just about every part of her life is about doing, not being. When she is at work, she could be under a lot of pressure to get things done and shortly after she gets home, she could end up going to the gym.

This could be a time when she ends up lifting weights, thereby armouring her physical body in the process. Once she gets home, there could be more work that she has to do in order to be ready for work the next day.

No Problem

If a woman like this was to come across a woman who is a stay-at-home mum or who does something fairly creative, she might not think anything of it. As far as she is concerned, it could be up to a woman to decide how she will live her life.

This could show that she sees women as individuals, as opposed to a group of people who should all live in the same way. If this is the case, it can show that she has good boundaries, and this is going to be the reason why she doesn’t see all women as being connected to each other.

A Different Scenario

The fact that she can accept that not all women want to live in the same way can show that she is happy with who she is and her own life. This doesn’t mean that she will want her life to stay this way forever, though.

Then again, a woman like this could end up judging women who are stay-at-home mums or who don’t have a certain type of job. Along with this, she could also lay into women who are nurturing, empathic and sensitive, for instance.

Less-Than

Hearing about women like this or being around them is going to cause her to experience a strong reaction. She could believe that these women are not empowered like her and that they need to change their life.

Being around a woman like this is then not going to make her feel good; it will most likely fill her with disdain. What is going on out there is then going to be seen as something that needs to change, not what is going on within her.

A Closer Look

The reason this woman responds in this way when women express their feminine nature, can be due to the view that she has of her own femininity. This part of her can be seen as weak and even shameful.

How she feels about her own femininity may have been pushed down into her unconscious mind, which is then why her conscious is not aware of why she judges certain women in this way. If she was to connect to what is taking place within her at a deeper level, she would be able to see why she experiences life in this way.

Way Back
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The view that she has of her feminine nature will have been shaped by her adult years and by what took place during her early years. When it comes to her early years, this may have been a time when she was abused and her mother may have been mistreated.

It would then have been clear that it wasn’t safe for her to embrace her softer side; doing so would only lead to more pain. The outcome of this is that she would have come to hate this part of herself and disconnecting from it would have been a way for her to protect herself.

Awareness

If a woman can relate to this, and she wants to reintegrate her feminine element, she may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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There is likely to be a lot of emotional pain in her body, and this pain will need to be worked through.