No! Not if you are about to use them as a step-by-step methodology for raising your child.

Now a disclaimer: I am a child development “expert.” Starting out as an Early Childhood Education major, on to being a Kindergarten teacher; through to a Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology and life as a professor, text book author and parent - I live and breathe child psychology. Yes, I am one of those experts.

So why then do I ask if you should listen to child rearing experts and answer NO? In short - because your child is your child and not my child.

I didn't want anyone telling me how to raise my son and I wouldn't think of telling you how to raise your child. But there are ways an expert can be helpful. What an expert can do is suggest ideas, raise questions, and mention what research shows about children, parents and the interactions between them.

Parenting skills require thinking:

thinking about the child and its development
thinking about yourself and your development
thinking about the interaction between the two of you

That’s the simplistic part. Add in a spouse, other children, pets and life and – oops - you get a much more complicated scenario. A scenario most idiosyncratic to you and your home – nothing the expert experiences on a daily basis - if at all.

In fact, even within your home each being lives in a “different” scenario, as what constitutes “self” is different for each one of you - and “self” will differ from time to time even for an individual. So how you interact with your children, to my way of thinking, can and will change depending on many factors.

Only you, the parent, is an expert in raising your child. What the rest of us experts can do is offer information and advice...not step-by-step “rules.”

And now I would like to invite you to claim your free 30-minute consultation about parenting when you visit

From Lynn Dorman. Ph.D. - The Advice and Information Guru - and Scanner at Gray Wolf Productions

Author's Bio: 

New York City born, raised and educated through college. I've always been a word sponge and a degree gatherer. I have a PhD in Developmental Psychology and a JD and I now use those words and degrees to offer advice and information on the many aspects of human development and life in general. And do this from a home that floats on the Columbia River.