Sometimes I'm not sure which is more difficult: attracting an available, compatible lover, or dealing with the difficulties of staying on the path of persisting love.

Here lies the problem. Let me explain. The world is designed on a physical level to manifest more experiences into your life that will fulfil your mind's "desire," which means what you focus on. Your thoughts and emotions have energy, and that energy is seen and processed by the Universe and sent back to you in the form of new experiences. The Law of Attraction is always processing and understanding your thoughts and experiences, and how you feel about them. Being a Law of Attraction Coach, one recurring question a client might ask is "how do I go about aligning with my desires?"

The question of what is harder to do, attract love or keep it, is interesting in that the answer lies in looking back at how the question was asked and interpreting it through the lens of the Law of Attraction. And most of us do this without even noticing. If you're asking yourself, "What is she talking about!?" you're in a good place. At least you aren't throwing up your hands!

As soon as you let yourself accept that you want to be loved by another, thoughts of "I'm not good enough" are triggered almost immediately. You start thinking about what that person will think of you, whether or not you can commit to that person enough, etc. I'll use a more tangible example. A good friend I know explained to me that she wanted to find someone she could share mutual love with and spend the rest of her life with. She wants to have a family and her career. This person is very clear about what she wants. There was a stark contrast between the point at which she was hopeful and clear about what she wanted compared to when she had a "get real" moment; in other words, she shot down her own ambitions and hopes for the sake of being "realistic," i.e. pessimistic, about the outcome of her desires. Her biological clock's tick was suddenly much louder, thundering fear into her ears, telling her she shouldn't have what she is entitled to. She wonders if she really can juggle career and family successfully.

She has expressed what she wants and in the next statement countered her desires by sending signals of what she doesn't want. This happens so often for most of us, we hardly notice.

Having trouble attracting love? Look for the answer in how you feel about what you want, but also how you feel about yourself when you in the process of contemplating your desires. Find the incongruence in your thoughts and feelings. If you aren't focusing on what it would feel like to have what you want, observe how your mind is reacting to the attempt. Watch for thoughts that take you down the path of anxiety, frustration, low self-confidence, and dread.

How you feel about yourself, what you want, and when you'll get it all have to be in harmony before the Law of Attraction will function the way you want it to. It's always an inner game. I hope you'll be easy with yourself and make it fun. The purpose of life is to be happy, it's that simple.

Author's Bio: 

Nanette Geiger is a Law of Attraction Coach and author of many books and articles focusing on Relationships, the Law of Attraction and Self-Mastery.

Nanette's new course, Breakthrough to Abundance Blueprint, uses Quantum Physics, Neuroscience, and the Law of Attraction to provide you with cutting-edge tools to evolve your mind. More helpful resources and information at her site: