Emotional Development: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Put People On A Pedestal?

Although someone might appreciate what another person does, it doesn’t mean that they will end up elevating them to a high position. One might realise that no matter what they can do, they are still a human being.

Therefore, this person might be able to do something that they themselves can’t do, but they are still no better than they are. Through having this outlook, one will be able to appreciate what they do but they won’t need to feel less-than the other person.

The Outcome

As a result of this, it will be possible for them to be themselves when they are around them and to even learn to do what this person can do. At the same time, whether or not they can learn the same thing can all depend on what it is.

For example, if the other person is a top level athlete, it might not be possible for them to do the same thing. This is not because this person will be ‘special, it can be because one hasn’t got the same ability or perhaps they are simply too old to get to their level.

Strong Foundations

What this is likely to illustrate is that one feels relatively strong and capable, which is why they don’t have the tendency to see other people as gods or goddesses. So even if they can’t do what someone else can do, it won’t mean that they will be missing something.

People like this are then not going to have access to special a power or strength that they themselves don’t have access to. Like these people, they will be in touch with the strength that is inside them.

Self-Belief

One may have an ability that they have develop over a number of years, or they could be developing something in particular. What can help here is that one might realise that even if someone else can do something very well, they would have still had to put the work in.

Therefore, regardless of what their genetics are like, it would have taken many years of handwork and dedication to develop. Having this outlook will make it easier for them to keep going and to handle the setbacks that arise.

The Norm

Perhaps, one has been this way for as long as they can remember. If so, they may conclude that one of the reasons why they are like this is due to the messages that they received from their caregiver/s.

During their early years, they may have been given a lot of support and encouragement. But before this took place, their developmental needs may have typically been met, which would have allowed them to develop a strong core.

Another Scenario

This is not how everyone will experience life, however, and this means that there are going to be people in the world that do put people on a pedestal. Someone like this is not just going to appreciate what another person can do; they will treat them as if they are some kind god or goddess.

When they are around someone like this, they may find it hard to act like they usually do. It can be as though they are in the presence of someone who has come from another planet, making it hard for them to keep it together.

One Area

The person who they see as being above them might be a good singer or a top athlete, for stance. But even though they are highly developed in this area of their life, there could be plenty of other areas in their life where it is a very different story.

With this is mind, there is going to be no reason for them to put this person on a pedestal; after all, they are simply another human being. One might not just elevate people like this, though; they could elevate most of the people in their life.

Higher Up

When it comes to their friends and even their partner, that’s if they have one, they could see these people as having something that they themselves don’t have. One will be an adult like these people, yet their experience on this earth is going to be very different.

They can believe that other people are more powerful than they are and that they know far more than they do about just about everything. One can then allow the people in their life to define how they life their own life.

Going Inside

If someone like this as able to take a step back and to reflect on why they experience life in this way, what they may come to see is that they don’t feel strong and capable. In fact, one may find that they feel like a small child.

One won’t have been aware of this but they will have seen certain people as parental figures. As a child they probably would have seen their parents as all-powerful, all-knowing beings, and this is how they will have perceived other adults.

Emotionally Stuck

Another way of looking at it would be to say that physically one will look like an adult, but they won’t feel like an adult. Their earlier years may then have been a time when they didn’t get the support and encouragement that they needed, and their developmental needs might not have been met either.

If this was a time when they were neglected, they would have spent a lot of time feeling powerless, helpless and hopeless. The years would then have passed and, as they would have been out of touch with their inner strength, this inner strength would have been projected onto others.

Awareness

The antidote to this will be for one to embrace their inner strength and to do this they will most likely need to heal the trauma that is inside them. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.
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What one is likely to find is that as they work through the layers of trauma inside them and gradually get in contact with their inner strength, they have less need to elevate others. One will be able to take back what they have been projecting onto others and to have a more balanced outlook.