Duties of the Father of the Bride
(Part IV of IV-The Actual Wedding Day)

The traditional duties of the Father of the Bride During the actual Wedding and Reception day include:

1. Maintain a calm and loving tone, in spite of tension, chaos, last minute pre-wedding jitters, and problem solving.
2. Offer to help out on follow-up calls, running errands for your wife and daughter, and anything else that helps ease the tension for your daughter and your wife.
3. If this going to be a do-it-yourself (DIY) wedding, ensure that you or someone else pick up the essential items such as: decorations, wedding reception food (at place such as Costco, Wal Mart, or local deli), chairs, linens, flowers, and anything else that is needed for the wedding or the wedding reception and transfer them to the appropriate site.
4. Be ready to solve any problems that arise with any of the professional wedding vendors such as: wedding planner, wedding venue, caterer, photographer, linen rentals, table and chair rentals, table covers and chair covers, wedding florist, music vendors or DJ.

"FOB" Official Duties at the Wedding and Wedding Reception

5. At a Non LDS wedding, the Father of the Bride will escort his daughter down the aisle and “give her away” to the groom
6. The Father of the Bride (and the Mother of the Bride) are the Official Hosts for the entire Wedding and wedding reception.
7. The Father of the Bride (and the Mother of the Bride) are the Official Hosts for the Wedding Reception line.
8. The Father of the Bride will give a Speech (or at least a toast) during the dinner or reception. (As part of the Father of the Bride speech he should specifically toast the bride and groom with a lasting love, long life, and good health). After the FOB’s speech, then the Groom, followed by his Best Man, will give their speech or toast.
9. The Father of the Bride will dance with is newly married daughter at the wedding reception (which could a Waltz, Fox Trot, Quick Step, or Western but the traditional dance is usually a Waltz). DAD - Don’t panic - this is not a “Dancing with the Stars” competition. Just a special time with your daughter.
10. If this was a do-it-yourself (DIY) wedding, you should offer to help to return essential items such as: decorations, tables, chairs, linens, chaffing dishes, flowers, and anything else that were needed for the wedding or the wedding reception. Or, help coordinated those who will return them. Make sure that all bridal gifts are removed from the reception hall.
11. The Father of the Bride should ensure that all bills for which he was responsible are accounted for, reviewed, and paid.
12. If necessary, the Father of the Bride should ensure that all the out of town guests have adequate transportation back to the airport.
13. See that the bride and groom are safely off on the way to their honeymoon.
14. Stop and give your wife a long warm hung.
15. Return his tuxedo to the tux shop, if applicable.
16. Plan a special dinner with only your wife and you. She’ll have lots of feelings and things to talk about after the wedding. This will be a great time for a special celebration for the two of you to relax, enjoy, and decompress.

Special note for LDS Father of the Bride:

17. If an LDS Cultural Hall was used for the wedding reception, The Father of the Bride should make sure that is cleaned, empty, and the building is locked up. He will need to return the keys or have some meet him at the building.

Please also see: Duties of the Father of the Bride (Part I , II and III)

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