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When a relationship that probably began in hope and joy has ended in failure, grief and pain, It's very understandable to be concerned about repeating an action that was so hurtful.  Here are some Happiness Tips for recovering from divorce.

Dr. Romance’s 3 tips for letting go of the pain of divorce

If your marriage ends in divorce, you lose more than the marriage itself. Even if your marriage had problems, or you were the one who wanted out, you still will have grief over the dreams and hopes which have died with the relationship. The overwhelming feeling of loss can be confusing and difficult to understand. The following tips will help you move through these feelings and begin to focus on the future.

1. Get Support: The people around you will express a lot of conflicting feelings, because they’re experiencing shock and loss, too. This may be a time when you find out who your true friends are. Some of your friends will avoid dealing with you, or choose your ex. You need trusted friends, family, and a church or support group who will care about you, listen to you, and not judge or try to get you to “get over it.”

2. Talk or write it out: Talk and write until you’ve expressed all of your grief and loss, anger, confusion and disappointment. Assume you have a specific number of tears to shed, and the more you express your feelings, the quicker you will come to the end of the tears. Be aware that expressing all your grief may be more than some of your support system want to hear. A support group, clergy person or therapist will be able to listen without judging until you’ve said everything you need to say.

3. Have a ceremony: When you feel ready, create a ceremony for letting go of your grief. You may want to include some of your close friends, ritually destroy a memento which symbolizes your grief or the lost relationship, and share your hopes for the future.

Dr Romance's 5 tips to moving on emotionally after divorce

1. If you gave it your best shot, and you know it's over, don't waste time in resentment and anger,it's self-destructive. Let go. Do your grieving, cry, journal, and talk about alone, or with a trustedfriend. Have a "letting go" ceremony with close friends, and say goodbye to your married life.Put reminders away for a while.

2. Don't hesitate to get therapy to help you through this transition, so you can grieve what's lost(even if you're the one who left, you've lost your hopes and dreams for this marriage) and moveyour focus on to building a good life in your new circumstance. A professional viewpoint willhelp you move from past to present, and plan for the future.

3. Take care of yourself financially -- a good lawyer can help you fight for your rights. You'llfeel a lot less resentment if you get your fair share of the assets.

4. This is an important time to have your friends or family around you, you need support. Don'tisolate. You don't have to go right out and date again (go slow with that) but you should have asocial life with friends and family. Even if you don't think you feel ready to see people, see yourclosest friends and spend time with them. They'll help you heal, and remind you that you stillhave people who love you. Spend a lot of time with people you trust.

5. Focus on building your life. This is a great time to try something other than a relationship --take a class, start a new business or career, get a puppy. Give yourself plenty of time to healbefore taking another chance on love.
Adapted from Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences

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Author's Bio: 

Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D., "Dr. Romance," http://www.tinatessina.com, is a licensed psychotherapist in S. California, with 35+ years experience in counseling individuals and couples and CRO (Chief Romance Officer) for Love Filter - the Relationships Website. She's the author of 13 books in 17 languages, including Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage; Lovestyles: How to Celebrate Your Differences; and The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again. She publishes the Happiness Tips from Tina email newsletter, and the Dr. Romance Blog. She has written for and been interviewed in many national publications, and she has appeared on Oprah, Larry King Live and many other TV and radio shows.