Each of us have people in our lives that just seem to Struggle with Life. Everything that can go wrong does.

Because you are a caring person feelings of sadness, sympathy and an eagerness to help come over you. How can you help, what can you do?

These people can be friends, work colleagues, acquaintance's and even family members. Sometimes even our own children.

You know what it is like to overcome hurdles, obstacles, great pain and move on to happier lives where you have risen above and learnt from these experiences in your life.

So eager to see these people being able to do the same as you.

You go about sharing your knowledge, you help them out physically, emotionally: Yet to no avail.

You feel helpless, overwhelmed, somehow inadequate because you haven't been able to help this person or people.

Wondering what you have done wrong or what more could you do or have done: Guess what - NOTHING

Yes- NOTHING more: the ball is in their court so to speak. You will find for your own sanity and to prevent this from having a negative effect on your life, health and well being. You will need to distance yourself, not becoming involved each time they call or cry out for help.

This may well seem harsh, but for you to have any positive effect on this person's or persons life it is vitally important. Now I am not going to promise you that you will have a positive effect on their life. But I know for a fact that it is not going to help either of you if you drown in the process of it all. This will happen if you don't put boundaries into place and emotionally detach yourself from the situation.

So What Can You Do?

Keep Building Your Life, Keep Rising above your Challenges - Leading by Example.

These people in your life then will have two choices either they will learn and decide to change their life. Believing if you can do it then so can they, or they won't and continue on.

Guess what though - That decision is entirely up to them, but you are not going to help them or yourself by continuing to be involved in their dilemmas.

Never stop loving them, believing in their abilities - allowing them to follow their path without intervention just visual guidance by following your path.

Delegation isn't just for the corporate world it also works within our personal world and lives.

Remember the biblical saying: "Give a man a fish and you will feed him for a day: "Teach a man to fish and you will feed him for Life"

Obviously this doesn't matter whether you are man, woman or child. Share your knowledge, Encourage, Praise and Teach where you can ,and leave in the hands of God and the person involved.

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Hi I’m Julie,

Your Health & Lifestyle Coach Specialist
(Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine)

I learnt very early in my life that there was much more to health than meets the eye

To achieve “Optimal Health” is about taking control of every aspect of YOU and YOUR LIFE:

That “Optimal Health” is only possible when we understand the unity of our mind, emotions connections to our physical body then our soul that inner voice that knows what is good and not good for us: Not to aim for Perfection but for Connection.

I love to work with people who dedicated who want to succeed in all areas of their life with the understanding that "Health is the very foundation for this to be possible"

So for over 26 years, I have worked with thousands of people in clinical practice prescribing herbal & homoeopathic remedies: implementing dietary changes so as to accommodate the best nutrition and life balance possible:Group and individual Health & Lifestyle Coaching to achieve the Happiest, Healthiest and Most Successful Life Possible.

My Professional Qualifications include Diplomas in Naturopathic, Herbal: Homoeopathic & Nutritional Medicine: Remedial & Therapeutic Massage Therapy: Body Mind Balancing Cognitive Counselling, Life Coaching & Massage: & Natural Beauty:

1.I love to watch movies that are based on true life stories with all the aspects of Life, love, romance, challenges and best of all happy endings.
2.I am born and bred Australian, South Australian with an English, German and Italian background
3.I didn’t commence my formulative studies until I was 28 years of age
4.I am so totally in Love with my husband of now 42 years
5.My family is the most important aspect of my life
6.I am totally passionate and focused on Health and Aging Well.
7.I love Healthy, Fresh food and Dining out
8.I try to go without drinking wine, but I have to admit that when we go out for dinner or have friends over, I do enjoy the odd glass or two of Savion Blanc
9.I love my early morning walks, just seeing the sun come up and the birds singing is just AWESOME
10.I want to live overseas for three months
11.I am obsessed with self-development books and CD’s
12.I love writing, sharing all the great things about life
13.I love hearing my clients life stories and sharing mine
14.I am living proof that by taking charge of your life will allow you to follow your passions, give you the opportunity of to age with great health and vitality.

Julie Doherty N.D
"Recognized as a World Health Leader In Naturopathic Medicine"
Accredited Member of the Australian Traditional Medicine Society