Do Men and Women Communicate Differently – 3 Telltale Examples That Say They Do

You would have heard – and maybe even read – the book by John Gray, “Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus”. This is a wonderful book that amply discusses the difference in communication styles and interpreting information by men and women. There are many instances that prove this theorem. Here are the top five:

1. Body Language

* Women while communicating tend to touch a lot, use lots of hand movement and facial expressions. While sitting or standing however, they tend to be non-invasive; crossed legs, elbows close to the body, allowing others their personal space. This is because women basically like to build and sustain relationships on an emotional level.
* Men while communicating would not normally be too physical; neither would their facial expression be as readable. However, while sitting or standing their stance would be more unreserved. Men usually sprawl their legs, stretch, and tend to encroach other’s personal space. This is because basically, men are unconsciously looking to be in charge, lead, dominate.

2. Information Sharing

* Women tend to say things while moving in circles; especially is there is something they do not like. They believe in dropping hints that could be picked up and interpreted right. By dropping hints instead of attacking the matter head on, women feel they are working at maintaining the relationship. However, this often totally confuses and exasperates men who are lousy at interpreting the ‘hints’ correctly.
* Men tend to go for the jugular. If they want to say something, negative or positive they say so in very few words. It is very common for a man to say, “I don’t like it!” then and there. Men believe that the direct approach is the best. Women interpret this as a heartless and tactless way of communicating, which may lead to arguments.

3. Complimenting

* Women love to receive and give compliments and they constantly seek it. They instinctively compliment, for this is a way to connect, bond and sustain positive relationships. For women this is a way to make friends, belong and nurture relationships. This is why you will always find women asking others their opinion about things pertaining to them – work, dress, cooking, relationships, etc.
* Men are wary of compliments. When they are asked about compliments, they tend to evaluate the subject and pass a verdict. This is why they do not actively seek compliments, for they do not want to feel scrutinized. For men, complimenting is a door to give advice, which is a way of establishing a pecking order. This often clashes with the expectation women have when they ask for compliments.

Do men and women communicate differently, you bet! Just ask any man or woman and you’ll get a resounding YES!