A stable relationship turned marriage is a blessing in life. Alas! Not everyone gets one. Sometimes distance gets built up between a happy relationship, and distances create barriers. Lucky are those who resolve it between themselves and move on together, others just want a way out. There may be a valid reason for one walking out of a relationship for their good. A failing marriage leads to divorce, which becomes very hectic when lawyers get involved. There is a common misconception that divorce lawyers tend to misguide you on the wrong path and wind you up at a disadvantage. That is a wrong idea. Severance lawyers work on your behalf and want to help you with your divorce and not take advantage of your situation.

Types Of Separation Lawyers:

Separation lawyers can be of two types. One is where both parties hire separate lawyers for themselves, and the proceedings go in a typical manner of a litigated divorce, whereas a Divorce mediation lawyer represents both parties at the same time as a common lawyer. The lawyer stays as a neutral party to help the parties to agree. As a token of advice, go for a mediation lawyer if you are low on budget, want to avoid long court sessions, and settle the case with equal compensations.

Formalities Of A Separation Lawyer:

Whether a mediation lawyer or individual lawyers, the formalities remain almost the same. Lawyers are going to ask the reason for your divorce, you and your spouse’s personal data, whether if there were any physical abuse or mental issues involved, when and where you got married, financial information, what are your expectations from the divorce, what are your goals after the separation agreement, etc.

Be realistic about your expectations from the divorce. The lawyers have their expectations too. They expect you to be calm, respectful, well organized, and business-like. You should not let your emotions get ahead of the facts. Discuss the fees of the lawyer beforehand and your payment plan.

How To Choose A Separation Lawyer Who Will Work On Your Behalf:

1. Go for a mediation lawyer: If you and your spouse go for compensation claim solicitors , there might be a chance that you may or may not get the compensations you hoped for, whether it is property-wise or child custody. Better if you and your spouse both sit down and agree for the last time and figure out a way by which you both will compromise, and no party should suffer the loss alone. Still, ask an attorney for his opinion on whether or not you should go with a mediation lawyer.

2. Ask questions to the lawyer: Before you hire a lawyer, be sure to ask him how many days he is practicing family law, how many cases he has handled before, what were the outcomes, how many days he thinks the case will take, if he is comfortable with talking to your spouse or his lawyer, if witnesses are needed, what is his fee, etc.

3. Hire at your convenience: Many times, the wife may feel that a male lawyer may take side with her husband, or she will feel uncomfortable discussing her case with a male lawyer. In that case, go for female divorce lawyers.


Divorce is not an easy process. There are a lot of emotions attached to it. Compensations are not always about money. If you are a parent, your child’s safety becomes your topmost priority. Take the help of separation lawyers and don’t think they will not work on your behalf, after all, they know that you are putting your trust in them. Always have a positive approach even in the toughest time.

Author's Bio: 

KOD Lyons Solicitors Leading Public Interest Law and Campaigning Human Rights Team in Ireland. Experts in Personal Injuries, Immigration, Welfare, and Child and Family Law.