It has been said that in order to define what someone believes about the world, the only thing that the mainstream media needs to do is gain their attention. And once they have their attention, they can define what they focus on.

Someone can then see something once and it can end up going straight into their mind, thereby having an effect on what they believe. When this takes place they won’t have spent much time thinking about what they saw, but it will still have an impact on their life.

Less Effort

What this shows is that the mainstream media doesn’t need to worry about if what they are presenting matches up with reality. The only thing they need to do is to make sure that they are the source that shouts the loudest.

Now, this is not to say that this approach will always work, but there are going to be plenty of instances when it does. This is then similar to what can happen when a child plays up at school.

Another Environment

Here, a child can end up causing problems in class, and this will allow them to receive more attention than the children who are behaving themselves. Therefore, even though the other children will be behaving, they can soon fade into the background.

It then doesn’t matter how well they are behaving, as the teacher’s attention will be on the problem child. In this case, the child is literally making the most noise, and this is why they are being given the spotlight.

Two Things

When it comes to the former, it shows that just because something is in the public eye, it doesn’t necessarily mean that it is the truth; it is simply what is being given exposure. And there is a lot that could be said in regards to why one thing is being given attention and another thing isn’t.

When it comes to the latter, it shows that even though someone is being given attention, it doesn’t mean that they deserve it. In moments like this, children are being taught that it pays to misbehave.

Another Area

In recent years, a lot has been said about how women are treated in today’s world, and this is often put down to rampant “misogyny”. Then again, it would be inaccurate to say that this relates to women from all over the world, as the people who focus on this often overlook what is taking place in the Middle East and Africa, for instance.

For some people, this is something that consumes their attention from time to time and, for others, this is something that is more or less always on their mind. If someone does focus on this all the time, their whole identity could be based around putting an end up this behaviour.

The Outcome

What this can then do is cause this person to believe that they are a morally superior human being. Through being this way, it can be as if they have every right to lecture other people, and that it is down to them to change the world.

As a result, someone like this can end up alienating large parts of their audience, yet this doesn’t mean that they will be able to see why this is taking place. Instead, this can end up being put down to misogyny, or even “internalised misogyny”.

A Cover Up

When someone like this ends up losing it and acts like a hysterical child, it can be hard to take them seriously. They are the ones talking about how much hate there is for women and yet, they can appear to be full of hate themselves.

One then has to wonder if the reason why they see so much hate around them is due to the fact that they have so much hate within them. The world is, after all, simply a reflection of what is taking place within us.

Its Missing

But if someone like this is running away from their true feelings and is focused on what is taking place externally, it is not going to be possible for them to realise this. Self-awareness is going to be the last thing that they want to develop.

At the same time, this is not to say that some men don’t hate women, or that some women don’t hate themselves. The trouble is that as there has been so much attention given to the hatred of women, it has meant that the hatred of men has largely been overlooked, at least in the mainstream.

Out of Balance

But, as this is something that has dominated public discourse for so long, it is not much of a surprise. So much attention has been given to the problems that women face that it is as if men have it easy.

Men are then these godlike figures who can handle anything, whereas women are often portrayed as helpless victims. Along with this, men are often dehumanised, which makes it easy to overlook their needs and to treat them badly.

Back To the Start

If, on the other hand, less attention was given to what some women are going through, it would allow more people to realise that there are plenty of men out there who are also suffering. And what might also stand out during this time is that it is often the women who talk about how oppressed they are who are actually the least oppressed.

But in the same way that the naughty child receives the most attention, these kinds of women are able to receive the most attention by making the most noise. And thanks to social media, it is relatively easy for them to receive the attention they desire.


What also plays a part here is that men are programmed to please women; their genetic survival depends upon it. With that aside, what this emphasises is how important it is for someone to look into why they are drawn to a certain cause.

If they were to do this, they may begin to see that the experiences they have had throughout their life are stopping them from being able to see clearly. And if they were to make peace with their past, it might allow them to have a more balanced outlook.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand five hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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