I recently gave a TEDx talk in which I reflected on what I've seen and learned over the past fifteen years - researching, writing, and speaking about essential human experiences in the workplace. As I addressed in this talk, I believe that for us to thrive professionally, especially in today's world, we must be willing bring our whole selves to the work that we do. And, for the groups, teams, and organizations that we're a part of to truly succeed, it's essential to create an environment where people feel safe to bring all of who they are to work.

While this is a fairly simple concept, it's much easier said than done. It takes a great deal of courage for us both individually and collectively to bring our whole selves to work. However, what my research and experience has shown me is that when we do this - not only are we more likely to create success and fulfillment for ourselves, we can have the greatest impact on the people around us and together we're able to do our best work.

Here are some things you can do personally to more effectively bring your whole self to work:

1) Embrace vulnerability - We erroneously think that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness; it's not. While vulnerability can be scary and hard, it's actually essential for healthy risk, change, growth, creativity, innovation, and more. We can't do, experience, or accomplish anything new or significant without vulnerability. As Dr. Brene Brown from the University of Houston says, "You can't get to courage without walking through vulnerability." She's right, and the more willing we are to embrace vulnerability, the more courage we have to do our work the way we want to and to have the kind of impact we most desire.

2) Be willing to have sweaty palmed conversations - A number of years ago a mentor of mine said to me, "Mike what stands between you and the kind of relationships you really want is probably a ten minute, sweaty palmed conversation that you're too afraid to have." Too often we avoid difficulties, challenges, and conflicts with others because we're afraid of the consequences of speaking up or engaging. However, when we have the courage to have those "sweaty palmed" conversations, we increase our ability to resolve conflicts, make deeper connections, and build authentic confidence.

3) Stop trying to survive - Something that gets in our way, especially when we're doing things that truly matter to us, is that we hold back and play it safe. I learned a lot about this during my years as an athlete - over 18 years of playing baseball, even and especially at the college and professional level - the most disappointing moments I had weren't when I failed, but when I held myself back due my fear of failing. I remember a coach of mine saying something powerful and poignant to me about this. He said, "Mike, you're living your life as though you're trying to survive it. You have to remember...no one ever has!" When we consciously let go of our obsession with survival, we make it possible to take risks and go for what we truly want.

If you run a business, lead an organization, manage a team, or simply want the people around you to feel safe and empowered to bring all of who they are to the work they do, there are two important components to creating an atmosphere that is conducive to this type of authenticity, which ultimately leads to the greatest levels of engagement, connection, and performance:

- Healthy High Expectations: High expectations are essential for people to thrive. However, the expectations have to be healthy - meaning there is a high standard of excellence; not insatiable, unhealthy pressure to be perfect. We almost always get what we expect from others, although if we expect perfection, everyone falls short and people aren't set up to succeed. Healthy high expectations are about having a high bar and challenging people to be their absolute best.

- High Level of Nurturance: Nurturance has to do with people feeling seen, heard, and valued - not just for what they do, but for who they are. It also has to do with it being safe to make mistakes, ask for help, speak up, and disagree. Nurturing environments are filled with an authentic sense of compassion and empathy - people feel cared about and supported.

We often think that in order to have a high bar we can't also be nurturing. Or, we think if we nurture people, we can't also expect a lot from them. Actually, the goal is to do both at the same time, and to do so passionately.

Bringing our whole selves to work and creating an environment which supports this are no small things. They take courage on everyone's part and, at times, go against conventional wisdom. However, when we're willing to show up fully and we encourage others to do the same, that creates the conditions for all of us to thrive.

Check out the video of my new TEDx talk, "Bring Your Whole Self to Work."

Author's Bio: 

Mike Robbins is the author of three books, Focus on the Good Stuff, Be Yourself Everyone Else is Already Taken, and Nothing Changes Until You Do. As an expert in teamwork, emotional intelligence, and the powers of appreciation and authenticity, Mike delivers keynote addresses and interactive seminars that empower people, teams, and organizations to work together effectively and be more successful.