Before You Ask Her Out Make Sure You Talk To Her First

You see a female you like so you find some courage to go up to her and ask her out on a date. She says no and you feel rejected and as though she made her decision because you didn't ask her out the right way. But the truth is you may have actually said all the right things but just asked her out at the wrong time.

The first thing you should always do with a woman you want to ask out is talk to her. Giving her a cheesy pick up line and then going straight in for the kill is not a tactic that works very often, but approaching her with a good opener to a conversation, talking to her for a few moments, and THEN asking her out is almost always a winning tactic for any guy to use. There are a few reasons for this.

1. You Are Showing Her She is More Than Just a Body To You

If you walk up to her and ask her out straight away then she may wonder if you are only interested in her for her body and her looks. This may also have her questioning what exactly you are looking for in a woman, and if she is looking for more than a one night stand you may lose your chances with her.

You have to give a woman an opportunity to show you who she really is and what she really has to offer you. You have to let her show you the qualities that she has that may be of interest to you. You have to let her feel like she is more than just a piece of meat to you. And when you ask her out after she has shown you who she is, she will feel as though you are interested in her for the great women she is, and she will love that!

2. It Gives Her a Chance To Get To Know You.

If you don't have a conversation with her then all she knows about you is what she see's and what she feels. This means that she may judge you on your first impression and approach alone and give you a label that doesn't actually reflect you and your ways.

For instance, she will see your physical traits as you approach her and quickly decide whether they are attractive to her or not. This happens all the time when you approach women and sometimes she decides she's not attracted to your looks before you talk to her. But luckily for men the whole package is what makes the final decision including looks, attitude, personality and much more. If you don't talk to her all she has is the looks to go on. She doesn't get to see the whole package.

She may also see you as a guy just looking for a quick fling, or she may see a guy who is not actually interested in what women have to offer besides their bodies. If you give her nothing else to go on then she will have no choice but to feel this way!

So make sure you approach a woman with the intention of showing her who you are and finding out who she is before you ask her out on a date. You will receive a lot more positive answers this way and avoid the quick judgements that aren't necessarily true about you.