Much has been said or written about Barack Obama and his cool, calm and collected behavior. His demeanor, actions and reactions exemplifies a mature person’s emotional independence. He’s the kind of person who decides how he would speak, act, project himself and react to certain situations. He never lets some outside forces be in control over his emotions or his moods that easy.

Okay, why are we talking about him? Well, today’s blog is about happiness or being happy. And to be happy is also about habits, especially about being emotionally independent, and balance and freedom are also the main factors. Being happy is not letting other people affect, or gain control over our own thoughts, feelings or actions.

This also means that you don’t simply permit people who try to hurt, embarrass, or annoy you to allow them emotional control over you or your moods. Remember, being happy is knowing that other people’s moods have got nothing to do with you or how you deal with your day.

It’s simply their own emotions or actions that don’t matter to you. Perhaps they have a bad hair day or suffering from a bad mood, but it doesn’t also mean that you have to follow suit. Instead, being happy is about deciding how you are going to think, feel, act and react.

Select your mood, your mindset and your attitude and how you react to certain situations. However, it also doesn’t mean that you can’t get mad or that you do not take necessary steps when you have to, but you pick the proper timing, material and place for your reaction. And being happy also means that you got to weigh your alternatives watchfully, decide how and when you would act and you just don’t want to instantly blow your top and react hysterically.

Happy people knows that being happy is about positive thinking and if you allow another individual to piss you off and annoy you, in a way, you’re also letting them be in charge of your own thoughts, feelings, emotions, attitudes, actions and moods. Well, you don’t want that to happen—so don’t do it.

This is not synonymous to repressing your feelings and emotions; it simply shows you that you have full command of your own attention and emotions and not them. So the next time somebody tries to propel you into an angry reaction, just think, “No, I won’t give you control over me…I’m so much better than that”—try it.

Author's Bio: 

The author of this article,Amy Twain, is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Let Amy help you find Happiness in Your Work Place. Click here to learn how to become a Happy Worker.