Hi, this is Lexie Moon and Elmasue Zylberberg and we are going to be discussing You-getting ready for love.

We all want to manifest perfect love and our soulmate. We dream of spending the rest of our lives with that perfect partner.

There are many programs out there that promise to help you find your soulmate or the love of your life and they are some wonderful programs…but if you are not ready for love then you won’t manifest your perfect partner from one of these "attract your soulmate" courses.

Real quick before we get going, I want to define what a soulmate is. Arielle Ford shared in her book The Soulmate Secret

"I believe a soulmate is someone with whom you share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can completely be yourself. Someone you love unconditionally, and who loves you unconditionally, and when you look into their eyes you have the experience of being at “home.”

So many people think that there’s this one perfect soulmate out there for you. That there's only one person out there who is your soulmate. I personally don’t believe that. This process is not about that type of thinking. When you think that there’s only one person, one soul, then it’s really limiting the universe and there are no limitations in the universe. There are no limits as to what the universe can provide. There are many, many souls out there that you could have as a potential partner and have a wonderful life with. Here is what we mean when we say the word soulmate- a soulmate is someone with whom you can share a deep and profound connection and feel that you can be completely yourself with. It’s someone you love unconditionally and they love you unconditionally

In the movie, Shall We Dance starring Richard Gere and Susan Sarandon there is this scene where Susan Sarandon's character is describing why she loves being married to her soulmate and she says “We need a witness to our lives. There are a billion people on the planet….I mean, what does any ONE life really mean? But in a marriage, you are promising to care about everything-the good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things-all of it, all the time, every day. You’re saying, “Your life will not go unnoticed because I will notice it. Your life will not go unwitnessed because I will be your witness.” mmmm, I love that.

So where is your soulmate? Ah… the question we’re all waiting for the answer to. It’s really very simple when we look at the Law of Attraction which works for everyone all the time without fail then we know that if you are not already in a deep, romantic, passionate, loving relationship it is because you are not in alignment with having that ideal relationship. so we’re going to discuss some reasons why you might be standing in your own way and what you can do to start shifting yourself into alignment.

The premise we are working with is based on the Law of Attraction and of course all universal laws. So in order for you to attract your ideal partner, your soulmate, you need to become what you want to attract. If you are feeling lonely, you cannot attract connection. It totally defies law.

What’s the first thing you can do to find out if you are ready for love. Well, that’s easier than you think. Simply ask yourself why haven’t I attracted my perfect partner yet? Whatever answers start coming up for you are some of your reasons. Here’s another good question to ask yourself-If my perfect lover knocked on my door right now-Am I Ready? And if not why not?

Whatever is coming up for you is your first clue as to where your resistance is. Some of you might be like “I don’t know” I’m such a hot and sexy catch, I don’t know what the problem is.” And that’s ok too. You have resistance and limiting beliefs that are preventing you from manifesting this relationship now. The key is to discover these beliefs and work to change them, to prepare you for love in every way. Maybe some of you already know what’s been holding you back, and how awesome is that? That’s half the journey.

when we start asking ourselves the hard questions we begin to realize the reasons why we haven’t manifested love yet. And acknowledgment is very powerful.

With the law of attraction likes attract likes. To really explain what that means, we are all vibrational beings, energetic beings and we emit energy through our feelings. So whatever energy, feelings we are sending out are drawn back to us like we are a huge magnet. So we attract what we are. Did you hear that? We Attract what we are! We actually have to become the thing we want to attract. Matching vibrations. So one way to begin to determine if you are ready for love is to make a list of all the qualities you are looking for in the love of your life. And you really want to get very specific with this. And pay attention to what if anything is coming up for you as you make your list. You can really pick up some key insights here. The next thing you would do is list all of the qualities you want to bring to the relationship. Really being honest, no one will see your list but you. It’s safe to be 100% honest with yourself. Then the last step is to look over your list and ask yourself “what qualities do I still need to develop to become the partner I want to be? What behaviors and patterns must I let go of?

We have to let go of something old or something that’s not serving us to make room for something new. So what does this really mean? It means you’ve got to shake things up. You’ve got to let go of behaviors and patterns that don’t serve you to allow for new behaviors and patterns. So for example “I’ll meet my perfect guy when I lose this last 10lbs.” If I had a nickel for every time I’ve heard that one or had a similar thought myself, I'd be rich! but the fact is that with this kind of thinking we are keeping our lover from coming in. You are saying to the universe I’m not ready yet. I’m not good enough now and the universe always listens and delivers. And I’ve got some news for you. If the love of your life is going to stop loving you if you gain 10lbs, is that person really who you are looking for? You want someone who is going to love you unconditionally. Oh wait a second, how can you attract someone who loves you unconditionally when you don’t even love yourself unconditionally. Maybe if you lost that last 10lbs, or if you had a better job or lived in a nicer house…you get the idea. So the next step really is to learn to love yourself as you are right now. Make peace with who you are and where you are. We all have a tendency to treat other people better than we treat ourselves.
We are taught from very early in life things from our parents and our environment that help us develop the belief that we are not good enough. I don’t know about you but when I was good my parents showered me with love and beamed when they looked at me but when I didn’t clean my room or eat my vegetables they weren’t beaming then. Where was the love? So we learn that we are only lovable if we meet certain expectations set up by someone else.

So to begin with. start noticing the way you talk to yourself or about yourself to others. Start to notice your self-talk and decisions you make based on not deserving something and your behaviors towards yourself. What if you were talking to a small child? Would you treat them the way you treat yourself? Probably not.
I love this quote from twitter:

If someone else treated you the way you treat yourself, you would have left them long ago
As you begin to love and honor yourself you become a magnet to love. As you love yourself you become more lovable. And included in this posting, we’re going to take you through an amazing meditation to help you with this.

A lot of us have been hurt by past relationships and we have actually closed our hearts to love. In a way protecting ourselves from more heartbreak. This is another reason why some people have not manifested the love of their life. We have to be open to give and receive love, that’s very important.

Another aspect of getting ready for love is clearing....space, time, old patterns, finances, all of it can affect your ability to draw in love.

Many of us are weighed down by anger, frustration, jealousy, old hurts and grievances....a very important part of the process of getting ready for love to come in is to release as much negative energy from your body from your life as you can. Forgive yourself! Forgive anyone and everyone who has hurt you! You are not saying that it was OK. You are not saying, here, hurt me again. Forgiveness is for YOU. When we hold the anger, the pain, we are allowing the person or situation that hurt us to take over, to rule our lives. So spend some time thinking of what you are holding on to,...what needs to be forgiven and let go.

Do you have clutter in your home, in your life? Going thru your possessions and deleting those things that don't inspire you, that you don't love....that are broken or useless...this allows space for something you really want to come in.

Do you spend your time wisely? Are you wasting time on things that aren't building the life that you want? Yes, we all need a little down time....some mindless dabbling on facebook or computer games. But has it taken over your life? Do you volunteer for things even tho you don't have time? Do you reserve time and energy for yourself? You DESERVE time in your day in your week to decompress, to rebuild your energy stores.

These are just a few examples of areas where our lives and patterns need attention. To get ready to draw in the love of your life, you need energy. You need to get yourself in a place where you are treating yourself with love. Making special meals for YOU! Going to sleep at nite in a beautiful space, in a beautifully made bed that feels and smells wonderful. Allowing yourself luxury, scented baths, time for meditation and contemplation.
What would you do for a loved one? Are you doing that for yourself?

Click below for this really awesome meditation designed to open and awaken your heart center, and to begin your journey into self love.

We hope that you are inspired by this to start the journey toward the healing and opening that will get YOU ready for LOVE! For further information, you may reach
Elmasue at: elmasue@myclearpathcoach.com and
Lexie at: lexie@outrageousattraction.com.
Wishing you LOVE and light!
Elmasue and Lexie

Author's Bio: 

Elmasue and Lexie are both graduates of the Quantum Success Coaching Academy. They are in the process of developing a group coaching program designed to help clients gain the clarity, self-love, ability to forgive, and other qualities that will get them ready to allow love into their lives.

Both Lexie and Elmasue coach clients from a spiritual perspective, and have worked with Light Body and Law of Attraction techniques.

Lexie is the host of Outrageous Attraction Radio on Blog Talk Radio.