If you've recently discovered that your worst nightmare has come true - that the absolute most painful thing that can happen in a marriage has just happened - then you must have just found out about your wife's affair. The emotions and thoughts inside of you are threatening to rip their way out of your heart at any moment.

In fact I'd be willing to bet that every second that you sit here reading this article is DIFFICULT because the thought of the woman you love cheating on you is such a tender subject. I get it, I've been cheated on before (although it was a serious, long-time girlfriend that cheated on me, not my wife) so I know a little about what it's like. It's not fun to imagine her being intimate with someone else. Not one bit.

Here's a general overview of what we'll be covering in this article about 'how to get over my cheating wife':

* When is it best to move on after your wife cheated on you?

* Is your spouse still the woman you married?

* Learning to love a woman who isn't perfect

So here's the question you need to ask yourself right now:

Do You Have What it Take Forgive Your Wife?

I won't lie to you: getting over her affair is going to take both time and effort on your part, but I'm going to do my best to make things easy for you. After all, unfaithfulness in any form is something that can easily destroy even the healthiest of marriages - It's going to be an uphill battle.

It's actually kind of astonishing; I mean just think how much your marriage has changed forever, all because of that ONE moment where you found out that your spouse is cheating on you. That ONE realization was enough to send shock waves through the foundation of what you thought was a happy marriage. You're certainly not the first man to wonder "how to get over my wife's affair", and many that do never fully forgive their wife for cheating.

Do You Truly Want to Save Your Marriage, Or Are You Ready to Part Ways?

Another question men often ask themselves is whether or not they even WANT to save a marriage after being wronged so completely by their wives.

It's a legitimate question, and one that you should answer fully before trying to figure out how to forgive your cheating wife. If you already know in your gut that you'll never be able to love or forgive your wife, then it's better to cut loose than pursue a lost cause that'll just make it worse for both of you.

This is especially true in the "Once a cheater, always a cheater" type relationship, where your partner has been cheating on you for a while, and either can't or won't stop meeting her lover. Since she has made the decision to cheat on you, you should know that it will be much easier for her to cheat on you again in the future.

When things get bad in your marriage, and even the best marriages have rough patches, then you'll likely find yourself wondering whether or not your spouse is still staying faithful. That won't change from now on...You'll have to work hard to rebuild trust with your wife.

Is Your Wife Still the Woman You Married?

Why do you think your once trustworthy wife cheated on you? Do you think that she has stopped loving you and that's the cause of her affair?

I mean, you know that YOU are still the man she married, at least as far as you know. You need to ask yourself this question and answer honestly: Do you still love the woman you married? Do you believe she still loves you even though she's been weak?

Make sure you're looking past the tumultuous emotions that are currently battering your mind...Try and distance yourself from her affair and see things objectively, or from the big picture.

If You DO Still Love and Believe in Your Wife...

Then it's probably best to think of her affair as a mistake. She is only human, and everyone who's ever been married has gone through temptation in some form (but not everybody gives into it). If your wife cheated on you then you can just chalk that up as one of her many mistakes.

I'm willing to bet that you've made a few mistakes in your day as well?

It's often tempting in a marriage to assume that a healthy marriage is one where neither partner ever commits a sin, but the fact of the matter is that very few marriages work that way. In fact, I would guess that there's NEVER been a marriage where both people were happy the entire time. At least not happy in the typical sense...Even when you're mad or even disgusted with your spouse, you can be happy that you have someone to experience life with, a partner that you can count on and that, when all is said and done, you can (hopefully) still have love.

But this is something we often forget when we're married. We always want perfection at any cost. You do; your spouse does; everyone does.

I'm sure you used to think that the woman of your dreams was some sort of goddess immune to the sins of man, but she cheated and now you realize that, just like you, she's only human. And as a human, there will be times where she not only fails to live up to your expectations, but actively disappoints you as well.

Now, obviously I'm not trying to make an excuse for her, but I am saying that if you want to save your marriage you're going to have to recognize that she has faults just like you do. You're going to have to forgive her faults, live with her faults, and accept her faults as you accept your own.

Do You Think You Can Love a Wife Who Isn't Perfect?

If you can, and she is willing to do the same for you (and if she won't stop cheating, that's a good sign you should be moving on), then I can promise that it's only a matter of time before you and your lady-love are back on solid ground again.

In fact, I've seen more than a few couples who've come back from an affair with a stronger, healthier marriage than they've ever had before!

Sometimes infidelity can force you to confront and resolve hidden problems that have been plaguing your marriage in the background for years...Even if you didn't know it!

If you can control your emotional response to her affair and stop your mind and heart from living in the past, and force yourself to look forward to a bright new future, then I can promise you that in time your relationship will work. The only way for this to happen, though, is if you're very careful not to let the issues of your OLD marriage corrupt your NEW marriage. You need to make an effort to forgive her and then let old graves lie still, as they say.

If you feel the need to initiate an argument with your wife over something from the past, make sure you think long and hard before beginning a confrontation, and when you're arguing make sure you're actually looking for a solution and not just reasons to yell and fuss, or to make her feel guilty for cheating on you.

This is one of the keys to overcoming infidelity that many people fail at...They can't help but start fights because they feel the need to get even with the person who cheated on them, but it always comes back to bite them in the butt.

Don't let that be you!

So, Where Do You Go From Here?

I can tell you right now that 9 times out of 10, when dealing with infidelity and the many confrontations that it can lead to, it's better to let the sleeping dog lie until you have a clear solution or plan of action already outlined in your head.

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I know you'll be able to find the answer to "how to get over my wife's affair" with a little time and a lot of work...Just don't lose sight of your end goal!

Thanks for reading, and best of luck!

With Much Manly Love,
- Jacob Elichmann