As a licensed therapist I worked with many individuals who presented with significant self-destructive behaviors. In therapy, depending on the presenting difficulty, we addressed the reasons why the client engaged in those behaviors. Taking uppers for Depression, downers for Anxiety, cutting to release emotional pain, or not eating to become invisible. Issues such as ADHD and PTSD not to mention abuse confounded these issues as well. But once I moved into the metaphysical realm a whole new perspective was revealed. In talking to people who struggle with these behaviors this perspective has been validated time and time again.

Removing all variables that involve the family of origin or cognitive structures there is an underlying aspect that is ignored within most clients. That is that many of these individuals are born as Starseeds, Indigos, Crystals, and other higher vibrating energies. To find out more about the characteristics of these individuals, specifically Indigos, see my other article Characteristics Of Indigo Children/Adults. These energies needed to incarnate on the Earth at this time to help in the upcoming evolution. However, many of these energies were "tricked" into incarnating. Now this goes against the grain of the long standing theory that we all have a choice in not only incarnating but also the situation in which we are born. This is not true for those born in the 1960's onward. The need for these energies right now is so great that previous "rules" of incarnation are moot.

Now that these higher level energies are not in human form on this Earth they are left to adjust to the very dense energy of this world. Energetically, this world as it stands in this moment, is literally like swimming in a septic tank for these individuals. They come from worlds and realms that are filled with love, compassion, free and light movement, and joy. This contrast alone can be unbearable.

This is then compounded by the lack of knowledge of how to deal with this energy as well as their emotions which are extremely amplified compared to other people. They are more likely than not born to parents who advertently or inadvertently encourage the repression of these intense emotions and experiences.

Looking at the big picture, these souls were told one thing when choosing to incarnate on this Earth. Usually, it was that Earth was much more pleasant than it really is. When they get here they feel heavy, bombarded by sounds, lights, emotions, sensation, etc that are incredibly dense and harsh. Then their environment tells them they are too sensitive. They are beaten, emotionally abused, or at best told they are crazy and not to talk about those things. They sense dark shadows and feel the emotions of other family members but hear verbal messages that everything is find. Socially, if the fit in at all, they feel alien. It feels as if they cannot get away from the pain and destruction even if everything looks and sounds beautiful. Within a family structure, they are the black sheep or the "problem child" and always misunderstood.

So how do addictions, self-harm, and eating disorders come into play? All of them with the exception of self-harm include a desire to "go away" and escape. Suicidal ideation is part of it but it may not be as defined as that. It is more of a vague feeling of just wanting to go. They most likely do not know where or how but they just want to leave or escape. This is a result of the instinctive knowledge that this planet feels really bad to them. The people feel bad, it feels bad in their family, they are misunderstood, and just feel different. They just want to go "home". Below is more detail on each situation:

Eating Disorders Anorexia presents most often for these individuals. Alongside the typical clinical issues for this eating disorder includes an instinctive. Starseeds in particular are born into a physical body they do not understand and do not connect with. They do not see their bodies as "them". So they use it as a tool to disappear, to go back "home" as mentioned above. Their body holds them back and holds them down on this planet which they want to escape desperately. They are angry there are here and subsequently punish the very thing that is keeping them here.

Addictions They key here is escape which may seem obvious to those familiar with addictions. But what is not fully understood is the use of substances to mimic the energetic environment from which they came. Take the use of Heroin or Ecstasy for example. These drugs make them feel in ways that come as close to the energies they feel, on a soul level, familiar with. They have not been given the tools to come closer to those feelings naturally so they go to the only thing they are easily exposed to. Alcohol, is different however. Alcohol is used primarily to deaden the intense energies they feel from other people and their environment. Sober, walking into a grocery store can feel bad and overwhelming. Drunk they can function "normally" as well as seemingly fit in with others.

Self-Harm Somewhat similar to eating disorders these souls are not quite sure what to do with their body and make the choice to express their anger on their bodies. This too includes the use of multiple tattoos and piercings which is very harmless practice but involves the same theory. It is a confusing over what to do with this body. Being inside such a shell is so foreign that one takes out their emotions on it (cutting, burning, etc) or by permanently decorating it. As with self-harm there is an inherent lack of respect for the body and so there are attempts to destroy it. These individuals may not be as interested in "leaving" as those with eating disorders. They simply use their body, which they lack a connection with, as a means to express incredibly intense emotions.

Now that we know why, beyond the clinical explanation, Indigo's, Starseeds and Crystal Adults manifest their difficulties it is important to address how to channel these energies in a more positive and productive way.

Heal As a supplement to traditional therapies and programs, it is beneficial to work with an energy healer, acupuncturist, acupressurist, and/or medical intuitive. Even chiropractic work can be very important. So much work can be completed in the mind but, for these individuals, they must also heal on an energetic level. Release old programming, past life issues, etc.

Learn Energetic Clearing/Protection There are many ways to learn how to clear others energies from your own as well as learn to protect yourself from the energies in their environment. A great book to start with is The ABC's of Chakra Therapy.

Grounding There needs to be a commitment to being on this Earth. These individuals want to leave so badly that they are rarely present here. Cording to the center of the Earth, physical movement and exercise, Yoga, walking, and even Relexology and foot massages. They need to focus on their feet and legs. Pedicures, massages, etc will all help in grounding these individuals.

Finding a Purpose These souls were brought here for a reason. It was not just to torture them. Working with an intuitive, oracle, or other trusted source will help them find out why they are here. The next step is to start living that purpose. It cannot be emphasized enough how powerful and important these souls are. This aspect is key to their recovery.

Overall, the purpose of this article is to supplement traditional theories and practices in psychotherapy. It is very useful in finding a perspective for those who seem stuck in understanding the "whys" about themselves and their difficulties. We are whole people, mentally, physically, and spiritually. This article provides one perspective on the spiritual aspect of addictions, eating disorders and self-harm behaviors.

Author's Bio: 

Kristen Finlayson is an acclaimed psychic and Intuitive Counselor who has counseled numerous people in changing their lives and finding their light. She was born to a long line of intuitives in addition to earning her Masters of Science Degree in Counseling. She utilized her education and her natural intuition to assist teenagers find their path in life. She is currently an Intuitive Counselor and Reiki Master helping people of all ages find their purpose and calling in life while calling on the aid of her spirit guides and her connection to the Source.

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