There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Every couple, whether they have been together two years or twenty years will get on each other’s nerves, disagree on things, and have arguments. It is a perfectly normal part of being in a committed relationship, and most couples work their way through the ups and downs and come out the other side better off.

However, what do you do when the trust breaks down and things really do not feel right? What happens when you are trying to find out how to catch a cheater because you think they are up to no good? Is there any way back from that point, and if there is, how do you find it and get back on the path to love and trust?

This is what we are going to look at here.

Take responsibility

If you know that the reason the relationship has hit a sour note is because of something that you are doing - or are not doing - then take responsibility and own it.

However, make sure that your actions correspond with your words. If you say sorry, make sure you mean it. If you say it is never going to happen again, then make sure it never happens again. If you do not, the trust will disappear, and your relationship will reach a point where it is unresolvable.

Discuss your values

When you have hit a point in a relationship where you are no longer sure if your values and what you want out of life align, it is time to sit down and talk about them. You need to know what values are shared, and what is important to each of you. In most relationships, trust, honesty, consideration, monogamy and mutual respect are shared values, but other people hold other things dear, and it is important to understand that, even if they are not the same. If they differ significantly, then it may be a sign that perhaps you are no longer suited for one another.

Think about what you are fighting about

Remember that the point of a relationship is for both people to feel comfortable together, secure in each other, and hopefully a safe place to develop and experience life with a special person. Be compassionate and caring and strive to instil the same values in your significant other, particularly if they are short-tempered or struggling with anger management. Consider the things you are fighting about andtake a step back every time a prickly topic comes up. If you just cannot bear avoiding a certain topic before things get better, recommend that your partner sit down with you and unravel the dilemma – deconstructing problems is a great way to fix them.

Create the space and time for your relationship

A good relationship requires plenty of time and space. Many couples are so wrapped up in other aspects of family life, work, social lives, and even things such as social media, that they forget that their relationship needs nurturing. Making space for one on one time is essential for a healthy relationship. Try to turn the TV off and put your cell phones down while you are eating and talk. Check in with each other when you come home from work and ask how each other days have been. Those are the little things that can make all the difference.

Think about what you want from your future

We will not be able to have it all, we all know that. Life means a myriad of opportunities that will be lost because we have made other choices. That does not mean that the choices were wrong or that we did not do our best, it is just that life is not multi-directional. Your partner and yourself may want to take different paths in life, but before you get to the point of no return, there are many ways in which you can adapt your dreams so that they can all be fulfilled. This does not mean that one of you must abandon their dreams for the sake of a relationship. It means exploring the dreams together, determining how to get onto the same page, work together and make changes so that everyone is happy and fulfilled.

Focus on the qualities that you love and admire about your partner

Remember the experiences and the reasons why this person has become so valuable and important to you. Trust that all these things are still valid. Close your eyes and preserve the moments in your heart. Enable yourself to feel the love, pride, and appreciation that you have felt in the past. Look to these moments to revitalise your dedication and commitment to keeping your relationship alive.

Learn how to be fully present

There is a clear distinction between being physically present and being emotionally present. There is a distinction between hearing someone and listening to someone. Being fully present means that when your partner speaks, you do not make assumptions and listen for what you still do not know or understand. Be a detective; listen and find out what is going on and what they want you to know. This is inherently different from hearing someone talk to prove that you are right.

Walk away

Occasionally you must walk away to cool down. If tempers are frayed, it is better to each go and have some space to calm down and refocus because sometimes, in the heat of the moment, things can be said that are not meant but once said can cause a great deal of hurt. Stop before it gets to that point and go and scream them into a pillow before returning and talking through the problem calmly.

Sometimes, even after doing all this, the relationship is not going to work out, but by doing these, you are giving it a fighting chance and can walk away knowing you have at least tried.

Author's Bio: 

John Smith is a Digital Marketing Consultant with more than 8 years of experience in SEO, SEM, SMO, blogging, etc having wide knowledge base into content marketing.