One of the strongest ways people sabotage themselves without knowing it is by identifying themselves with what has happened to them. Whether it is a painful or successful experience does not matter, you are not your experiences. The reason this is so important to understand is because when you want to create a new life experience, you must let go of who you think you are and allow the form of you that you have envisioned manifesting out.

For example let’s say that in your early school years you had a difficult time learning to read and you have it in your mind that you are not good at reading. Parents and teachers also validated the thought that you are not a strong reader. In fact you were just not good at reading and had a traumatic experience having to read out loud in class and endured teasing from other students because of your poor reading abilities. You start falling behind on homework and your grades start deteriorating because to accomplish anything you have to read and you know your are not good at reading.

You do not have good self-esteem as your grades fall because you start to think that you are stupid. Your grades reflect that you are stupid because you don’t hand in your homework. Your parents are grounding you and taking away privileges because you are not functioning in school. You feel horrible inside and determine that you can’t go to college because you are not smart enough. So, you take a job that you think you are good enough for. It pays minimum wage and seems to be alright for now.

You are hanging out with people you think are your peers and they validate that you are in the right peer group of people because they to have the same self-esteem level that you do. Yet, one Saturday evening while you are at a party there is this amazingly beautiful man or woman who is making eyes at you. You are completely drawn to this person and begin talking with each other. You are hoping that this turns into an incredible romance. You exchange email address and cell phone numbers and leave the party late because you spent the evening talking with each other and flirting.

The next day at work you are floating on cloud 9. You have a strong crush and all you can do it think about the conversation you had at the party with this exceptionally sexy person who you really like. You are hoping when you go home that there is an email from this person on your computer. After work you run home flip open your PC or Mac and hurry to your email…and there it is.

You are tickled just looking at their name on your email screen and can’t wait to open the email and read what it says. When you open it you are so excited to see that it is a rather long email. You begin reading it and find that you are giggling, laughing and excited reading the email to yourself. Your heart is thumping and you feel so good after reading it that you start reading the whole email over again.

Never once do you say to yourself that you are not a good reader or that you should not even try reading the email because you simply can not read. However, what you told yourself about reading in the moment whether conscious or unconscious is what materialized. You told yourself that you could read when it came to the email from a possible new relationship. So the key to understand is that you are whatever you say you are. You become whatever you tell yourself you are becoming.

Your brain cooperates with you whether you tell it something empowering or disempowering. You are not what you experienced. You are not the bad feeling you felt. You are not someone else’s ridicule. You are not the homework you did not do and you are not your past. You are whatever you decide you are moment to moment.

If you decide to challenge what you currently think of yourself then you are going to have to take action and, in the above example, maybe apply to college. Start reading some books that appeal to you and examine what it is that you are telling yourself about you, because you become what you tell yourself you become. If you say you are not good at something your brain says…as you wish. If you say I can do anything I put my mind to, your brain says…as you wish. Then your brain helps you create an experience of what you tell it to. You are not the experience you are currently having, that is just something that is here right now.

Author's Bio: 

Vickie Jimenez is the Author of "Champagne Thoughts and Caviar Power the Science of Results Oriented Thinking." She is personal and business development expert with a joint venture background and 20 years in the industry. She has spoken nationally and internationally. Vickie's Mission is to educate and inspire people to achieve maximum results by empowering them with a strong state of self command. To learn more Visit or