There seems to be a common need to be successful.

The problem, as I see it, is that there seems to be a perception that you are only successful when you have lots of big shiny stuff and have a big important position. I don't believe that these things define success and I do not think that you should feel unsuccessful just because you haven't got them.

I think that you are being successful whenever you do whatever you are doing to the best of your ability.

You can be successful mowing the lawn. If your intent was to mow the lawn so that it looks neat and you have done that, then you are successful.

You can be successful at driving to work. If your intention was to get to work safely and you have done that, then you are successful.

You can be successful at whatever you do as long as you are meeting the intent of the activity.

You need to build a success platform from which to launch the rest of your life. Take time to acknowledge all the things that you are, and have been, successful at. This will build confidence in you for the rest of the journey.

If all you ever look at is where you went wrong, or what you haven't got, or how far you have yet to go, then it is very easy to become disillusioned and to feel like a failure. This is not the way to an empowered life. If you constantly compare yourself to others and see how they have more than you, it is easy to feel like a failure.

Rather than remembering everything that went wrong acknowledge all that went right.

Rather than complaining about what you haven't got appreciate and be grateful for what you have.

Rather than feeling overwhelmed by how far you have to go, acknowledge and take pride in how far you have come.

Rather than comparing yourself to others acknowledge your own achievements.

The feeling of being a success or a failure is just that, a feeling and you can control how you feel, and you must control how you feel or your feelings will control you.

So are you a success or a failure? Only you can decide.

With love and best wishes


Author's Bio: 

A professional speaker and trainer, Johan delivers exciting and empowering presentations, seminars and workshops. Johan has the ability to make the most complicated subject easy to understand and the most sensitive subject easy to deal with.

He is the author of "Thoughts to Live By" Vol 1 and 2 compilations of 99 specially selected inspirational and motivational messages, and "A Practical Guide to Employee Management" a complete "do it yourself Human Resources guide.

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