What Is An Alpha Male?

The definition of an alpha male is a dominant male among other males. Mostly observed in primates and dog packs, there tends to be certain males that not only lead the others but are given priority over food and female mate selection. As opposed to beta males who have lower social rank and Omega males who have little to no social rank, the alpha male seems to run the show.

This phenomena is also observed in humans. Yes, fellows there are alpha males out there and they continue to enjoy a plethora of different women. In fact, nearly 10% of males (alpha males) sleep with 90% of the viable females.

I‘m sure you‘ve seen it before…

-- You meet a girl who you like and are attracted to. You spend a good deal of time with her and you feel she is starting show some interest. And just as you start to make your moves, she is quickly whisked away by some jerk who she just met. He may not respect her or treat her well but she is so caught up in the emotional wake he brings, she instantly falls head over heals for him. All the while, you sit there angrily wondering “what the hell does this guy have that I don’t?” --

Now you can rest easy friends, because what I’m going to explain about the alpha male and attraction is going to change the way you handle women. It would be extremely easy for me to simply say to you "Just be the DOMINANT, ALPHA LEADER and the ladies will flock to you". But this is not the case and would be bad advice. Because believe it or not… being an Alpha male is NOT a choice! It is a consequence. Yes, I said it and if you keep reading you will find out why.

General characteristics of the alpha male

1. Solid Internal beliefs (self and world)
The alpha male knows who he is down to the core. He may not be the smartest or most successful, but he believes so strongly in his way of thinking that other ways simply appear irrelevant. Whether he is a republican or democrat, Christian or Atheist, his convictions will be strong enough to convince you (at least momentarily) that he is right. The alphas decisions are thoughtful yet usually come to him instantly. If he has a choice to make, he rarely moves back and forth weighing and wavering in indecisiveness. Once a decision is made by the alpha male, there is little questioning on whether or not it was the right decision. He simply assumes it is right and moves on to more important matters. Because of his strong beliefs and convictions, he is generally outspoken on such matters and not afraid to let someone knows how he feels.

2. Adaptability
The alpha knows what to do in every situation to survive, physically and socially. He may not like change but he adapts quickly to his environment and wastes little time thinking about what to do. Throw an alpha male and a beta male, who both lack any survival knowledge, on a deserted island and you can guarantee the alpha male will find a way to survive over the beta. Likewise if you throw an alpha male into an unfamiliar social situation, he will also adapt quickly and find himself easily taking control of the situation, even if unconsciously. It is not uncommon to see people surrounded by alpha males at cocktail parties and other events merely because of their ability to adapt so well to the situation.

3. Protector of loved ones
If there is one tried and true attribute of the alpha male, it is his ability to take care of the people he loves. Unlike most, his fears are not self based but rather geared towards others he cares about. The alpha male father could care less if he dies in a struggle as long as his wife and children survive. You could say that the alpha carries the ultimate burden. He puts the value of his life below those he truly cares about. In terms of strength, his body language lets you know that he is not to be messed with regardless of his height or stature. If you were to cross him be ready to throw your life on the line because you can sure he will do the same.

4. Socially aligned
The alpha male is aligned to others. However, his status and confidence alone is not enough to be admired and respected. He also must have the ability to relate to people on some level. When you speak with an alpha male, you can’t help but feel the need to work for his acceptance. Perhaps it is because he sets the bar high for people in his life. Perhaps it is slight vulnerability that makes him a human being that others can relate to. Nonetheless, he tends to win over the hearts over the general public. As a consequence the alpha male generally has a large network of friends and followers.