How would you like to improve how you relate to others and
become more energetic at the same time without having to
purchase anything?

Here's a surprising truth - one of the most powerful weapons
to enhance your life is your own tongue!

A powerful pep zapper is distress over troubled
relationships! Worrying about them can quickly siphon off
needed energy. So why not try a more effective way to
resolve these problems?

Here's a simple five-point plan for improving relationships
and increasing your energy level at the same time.

1. Practice speaking encouraging words instead of negative

Concentrate on the qualities in other people that you can
affirm and dwell on those things instead of on their faults.
This alone should do wonders in relieving stress in your

Doctors know that prolonged anxiety harms you, but healing
words can soothe stress and a peaceful mind leads to
improved physical health too.

What we say can have a permanent effect for good or for
evil. Think back in your own life when someone encouraged
you. You still remember what they said, don't you?

We store in our minds in a kind of mental art gallery what
others have said to us. What words of yours would you like
to have permanently installed in someone else's mind?

2. Avoid fueling verbal fires.

When someone starts to blow up all over you, be careful
about your response. Why burn your relationship house down
with your own mouth? Try spraying water on an argument with
calm words instead of using a flame-thrower.

How many marriages have been destroyed when in a fit of
anger people spew out hurtful accusations to one another
that are never forgotten. You might as well punch a hole in
a feather pillow and let the feathers fly all over the place
and then try to collect them one by one! You can't get back
the damaging effects of those hurtful words either.

Want to free yourself from an entrapping verbal situation?
Practice waiting a while before answering someone when
you're angry. Then carefully choose what you are going to
say. Your reply could well be remembered for the rest of the
other person's life!

"A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up
anger" (Proverbs 15:1 NKJV).

3. Don't be a motormouth.

Listen more than you talk and think about what you're going
to say before you say it. Don't just blurt out whatever is
on your mind.

People who constantly chatter on and on about themselves and
their opinions strain their relationships. If you enjoy
monopolizing conversations, think about what other people
may be experiencing when they're with you.

Also, the more you talk, the more likely you'll be to put
your foot in your mouth. That's known as "foot-in-mouth
disease!" So think before you let something out that you'll
regret saying.

4. Nip hurtful speech in the bud by carefully choosing your

If you could put what you're thinking on a CD, what would
you entitle it? Thought patterns will come out sooner or
later in your conversations.

Abraham Lincoln is remembered as being one of the United
States of America's greatest presidents. But he experienced
many failures along the way. These failures were in the
areas of formal education (which was very limited), business,
farming and in obtaining desired political offices.

If Abraham Lincoln had thought of himself as a loser when he
failed so many times in life, he would have been unable to
fulfill his destiny.

5. Pray for healing words to tap the Source of wisdom.

Consider praying about what you are saying. Here's a
to-the-point prayer:

"Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my
lips" ( Psalms 141:3).

Want to have a better life? Choose better words!

Start afresh today to create beautiful art-word exhibitions
in other people's minds with loving and caring words.

Author's Bio: 

Patricia Wagner offers informative tips on living a more energetic lifestyle at is also an artist and you can view her original paintings at