“Sadness flies away on the wings of time.” Percy Bysshe Shelely

Dear God, take my fear of abandonment and mold it into a stone so that I may toss it into the river Petra. Transform my fear of loneliness into a cuddly teddy bear I can hold at night; and convert my fear of making the wrong decision into a caring teacher that holds my hand through the school of life.

I love abandonment: for everyone who leaves me is showing me God’s love, as they were not meant to be on my path. I love loneliness: for being alone means I can truly commune with God with rigorous honesty. I love to make the wrong decisions: for they teach me a great deal more than the right ones.

Does this work my little one? No, not really.

No one can abandon me: for I am always in the company of God’s love for me. I cannot be lonely: for love and God are with me at all times. There are no wrong choices, only great lessons.

How does it feel now? A bit better.

I cannot be abandoned: for the only one who can truly abandon me is I, and that I will never do. I cannot feel lonely: for I hear the birds chirping outside my window, and I know that their songs are there for my enjoyment. I cannot make the wrong choices: for everything God gives me is perfect.

Checking in? Yes, a bit better, please go on.

I cannot be abandoned: for I must give myself away to another in order to feel that something is missing, when they leave. I cannot feel lonely: for the love of my children will be forever there for me. I cannot make wrong choices: for the only wrong choice I can make in my life, is not to make any choice at all.

Yes, yes I am starting to feel better.

I cannot be abandoned: for I will always have me, myself and I at my side, and we love one another. I cannot be lonely: for my doggies jump on me and lick me in the face every time I come home. I cannot make the wrong choices: because right choices do not exist without wrong ones, and someone has to take a little of each.

That’s funny!

I cannot be abandoned: for I am connected to everyone whether they like it or not; I cannot be lonely: because this planet has so many people; if I could find out how to truly be alone, I would be the richest person in the Universe. I cannot make the wrong choices: because if I did only make the wrong choices, I would have the monopoly on them, and I would be rich from the patent I could register in my name.

That’s ridiculous, but it’s working.

I cannot be abandoned: because no one decides what happens in my life but me, so I am the one doing all the abandoning. I cannot be lonely: because I just don’t want to be. I cannot make the wrong choices: because all the choices I make are right by me.

That’s it, keep talking to yourself and you can get out of any hole you may have dug yourself in.

Today’s Affirmation: Today, I can talk myself out of any negative feeling!

Author's Bio: 

Giuditta Tornetta is a doula, a lactation educator, a hypnotherapist and author of the upcoming book: Joy In Birthing: Daily Inspirations for a Natural and Painless Childbirth. She has a private practice in Los Angeles and can be reached through her website at