The Law of Attraction says that we attract to our lives whatever we give our attention, energy and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted, that we attract from the outside what we resonate with, on the inside.

In other words, we bring into our lives what we momentarily strongly focus upon.

For many people when they first here about the Law of Attraction the idea of bringing anything they desired into their lives sounds quite exciting, “I can be, do and have anything I desire,” this is great I have plenty of desires, and all I have to do is order them with the universe.

Weeks go by and where are all my things? I placed my order and haven’t got them yet!

What is it with this Law of Attraction, I order my stuff and it just doesn’t turn up, am I ordering to much or am I just not a good attracter?

If we read the definition of the Law of Attraction again, we can see that we bring into our lives whatever we give our attention, energy and focus to, whether wanted or unwanted!

But why would I give my attention, energy and focus on unwanted things, that doesn’t make sense.

Ah but it does, and we all do it. This is why your things aren’t turning up.

When we look at Cause and Effect, we can see that the Cause is our thought, and the Effect, our reality.

It is in this reality of now, possibly with debt, unhappiness, and dissatisfaction that we focus on. If you’re in debt you may know what you want and what you want to change, but your energy and focus is spent saving money, spending less and no more bills!!! Your energy is debt and your focuses is on not enough, and guess what, you’re getting exactly what you ordered.

We tend to live in effects, we experience effects around us, we think about the effects we see and when our focus and energy is on effects, the Law of Attraction obliges us by bringing more of the same, it’s a kind of cycle of reality attraction.

It is no coincidence that someone experiencing illness, thinks and talks more of this experience, and seems to have more than his or her fair share of illness dealt to them. In much the same way as someone who has experienced an abusive relationship, seems to attract the same kind of abuse in each relationship they end up in.

Similarly, a ‘successful’ person dwells in the positive and enjoys life’s abundance with passion, bringing more and more of same experience into their lives.

It not that successful people are good at using the Law of Attraction and unsuccessful people are not, anyone with the ability to think uses these Laws equally. It’s just that we tend to use attraction by default and to break it we must learn how to apply the Law of Attraction to bring us a more desired reality.

To change our current circumstances we must change our thoughts, to succeed we must have the thought of success, the idea of success, the intension to succeed. We must conceive.

This is great, all I have to do is think about being rich and I’ll be OK!!

Not so fast! Thoughts alone will not be enough to make you rich, you have move towards the things you want.

You want success, you’ve got to move towards it, you want love you’ve got to move towards it, you’ve got to give your attention, focus and energy on your desires so that the Law of Attraction can line them up for you.

But if I focus my energy on a new business what happens if it all goes wrong, what if I don’t get the deal. In love what if I’m rejected?

These are thoughts that stop us moving forward, there is nothing wrong in being aware of the negative, but we mustn’t let it define us. We need to walk towards our desires regardless, and as we move forward we may make mistakes and meet obstacles on the way, but it’s the way that we handle that failure that will move us ever forward.

So what of failure, how does failure help us succeed?

To begin with we need to understand what failure really is.

It’s interesting how we measure our own or other people’s achievements. We use bank balances, property size, lifestyle, power and evidences of abundance as a measure of success or failure, but we don’t really understand the difference between them.

Success and failure are not measures of have or have not, they cannot be judged by the size or the amount of our possessions, they are not destinations that we can look at and pass judgement on.

In Napoleon Hill’s book the Science of Getting Rich, he writes about R.U. Darby and the “Dig and Grow Rich” story, Hill shares with us the story of Darby’s uncle who in the last century, was caught by ‘gold fever’ and went West to dig for gold.

“He staked a claim and went to work with a pick and shovel. The going was hard, but his lust for gold was definite.

After weeks of labor he was rewarded by the discovery of the shining ore. He needed machinery to bring the ore to the surface. Quietly he covered up the mine, retraced his footsteps to his home in Williamsburg, Maryland, told his relatives and a few neighbours of the ‘strike’ They got together money for the needed machinery and had it shipped. The uncle and Darby went back to work in the mine.

The first car of ore was mined, and shipped to a smelter. The returns proved they had one of the richest mines in Colorado! A few more cars of that ore would clear the debts. Then would come the big killing in profits.

Down went the drills! Up went the hopes of the Darby’s! Then something happened! The vein of gold disappeared! They had come to the end of the rainbow, and the pot of gold was no longer there! They drilled on, desperately trying to pick up the vein again, all to no avail.

Finally, they decided to quit.

They sold the machinery to a junk man for a few hundred dollars, and took the train back home. Some ‘junk’ men are dumb, but not this one! He called in a mining engineer to look at the mine and do a little calculating. The engineer advised that the project had failed, because the owners were not familiar with ‘fault lines.’ His calculations showed that the vein would be found just three feet from where the Darby’s had stopped drilling! That is exactly where it was found!

The junk man took millions of dollars in ore from the mine, because he knew enough to seek expert counsel before giving up.”

So is this failure?

As a chapter of Darby’s life, this project is a failure, as the Darby’s quit and gave up on their dreams, only to find that they were only three feet from realising them. But in the contents of Darby’s life it is not failure.

You see Darby took the lesson of success through persistence that he had so harshly learned in his short mining career and applied it to everything he did. As a result Darby became one of a small group of fewer than fifty men who, at that time, sold over a million dollars in life insurance annually.

So what is failure?

Absolute failure is the habit of quitting, while failing with renewed determination to achieve is a stepping-stone to success.

Throughout history, in the world of commerce and science, we see this pattern of failure, determination, persistence and success. How many millionaires have a bankruptcy against their name? How many experiments by the likes of Edison and Bell failed, before they reached the conclusion they had been seeking?

It is with passion and faith that we will have the power of persistence. It is with belief that the Law of Attraction will be invoked and our journey of success will be realized.

Whether you understand the Law of Attraction or not, you must get out of the habit of thinking in your reality (unless your reality is where you want to be).

To make changes to your circumstances you must intend to, you must visualize your dreams and desires and move towards them with passion and faith.

To Achieve you must first Conceive and then Believe.

With Gratitude and until next time

Author's Bio: 

Like so many I have found it difficult to utilise the Law of Attraction, thinking that just being aware of the Law would bring me everything I desired. Many books, films and interviews later, I started to understand the Law of Attraction, I have co-authored 2 books with my partner and we now run the website Helping people Conceive, Believe and Achieve.

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