Writing thank-you notes can be one of those annoying chores you always put off. Imagine having to write more than 100 of them for wedding guests. The more you’re nagged to
do it, the less motivated you feel. I rarely ask clients why they avoid doing something. Instead, I focus on
how many strategies we can devise to get the task done. The following approaches might be helpful.
DEFLATE THE TASK
Is the undertaking too overwhelming even to contemplate?
When I asked a client recently for his best example of procrastination, he replied: “I need to improve the
workplace environment for my staff.” The workplace environment
encompasses so much. Would he suggest a more casual dress
code, replace metal stools with ergonomically designed seating,
or create more transparent job descriptions? He realised that, even though the idea had been in his head for months, he wasn’t sure whatthe overall solution was. He was sure that the longer he put it off, the more intimidating the task would become. Once we outlined what was to be done specifically, and planned manageable steps to achieve this, his worry was replaced
with enthusiasm.
LOWER THE HEIGHT OF THE HURDLE
That unfiled pile of documents behind your home office chair has
become a precarious tower just barely concealed by the desktop –
scary, but not insurmountable. If your favourite music was playing,and a hot aromatic bubble bath was running, couldn’t you commit to tackling that pile bit by bit at the end of each day until it was gone? Become aware of your resources Is there anyone in your life who might be willing to help you? Look
beyond passing chores to your spouse. A former colleague of mine
was strict about keeping a tidy work area and embraced the adage “a cluttered desk reflects a cluttered mind”. She looked forward to the annual office cleanup day. What if the client earlier had asked his employees what changes would enhance their office the most? Consider getting an accountability partner. Telling a friend or colleague about your intentions to complete
a much-delayed chore, and knowing they’re awaiting the news of your success, makes it far more likely to happen. Reciprocate by offering to hold that person accountable for something they’ve been meaning to accomplish.
CREATE TIME
If your excuse for not getting things done is that you haven’t got time, spend a week becoming aware of how much time you allow for everyday tasks. Write it all down, including time spent chastising yourself for all the stuff you feel you should have but didn’t get done the day before. The idea isn’t to cast a
critical eye on your inefficiencies, but to increase your awareness of how your life is playing out in real time. It might come as a shock to realise that you check your work
e-mail 48 times before lunch, on average, or that you routinely
mentally revise sent messages in 10 different ways.
MAKE IT A PRIORITY ANYWAY
Perhaps your internal judge has decided that your unaccomplished
task isn’t worthy of your attention. For some of us, important tasks get subconsciously, but consistently, pushed to the bottom of the to-do pile. Why is an appointment with the reflexologist less important than driving your husband’s car to the car wash? If you’re expecting someone else to give you permission to
prioritise yourself, you might just be the one you’ve been waiting for.
Having spent the better part of her adult life in high-pressure jobs, mired in a state of chronic unease and discomfort, Dr Michelle is particularly tuned in to working with those who also feel stuck in a prison of their own making. There is a way out! Fast-change bioenergetic techniques such as meridian tapping help us to quickly release the mental and physical barriers that block us from being, having, or doing whatever we desire. Quickly release the patterns of chronic stress, or long-standing fears and anxieties, and develop new, resourceful ways of being. For more information, or to schedule a complimentary 15-minute session, visit www.guidedenergycoaching.com or Skype: michelle.gabbe
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