Once upon a time I was frantically racing down a side street, when suddenly the light up ahead turned red. Screeching to a halt, I yelled out: "I CAN'T WIN!!"

Lot of emotion behind those few little words. But they pretty much summed up my life at the time.

"Glad nobody heard that," I thought to myself. Then I realized, hey *I* heard it! And I've been saying that phrase to myself longer than I can remember. Maybe it's time I changed it...

And thus, for the first time in my life, I welcomed myself into the wonderful world of positive affirmations. Over the course of the next month or so, every time I heard myself saying the phrase 'I can't win' I'd change it to: "I AM a winner!" On average, it probably happened twice a day.

So, fifty phrases later, it became automatic. I'm not sure how much it really changed my life, but I certainly *felt* better. Which was good enough for me.

Do you find yourself screaming a similar phrase inside your head? It's a fairly simple and straightforward matter to change it into a phrase that perhaps may better serve you. But that's not why I'm writing to you today, as wonderful as it may be to reprogram certain errant thoughts...

No, I'm here to talk about the single most important phrase I tell myself. Maybe you'll agree. (And if not, maybe you'll come up with your own 'most important phrase' - that to you sums up what YOU'D most like to change or improve about yourself.)

Actually, I've got a few. Here they are:

"I give myself permission to feel ALL my feelings."

"I am willing to accept greater and greater responsibility."

"I am the authority in my life."

Wow! That lightened the load! Did you notice all those people who jumped off the bus just then? I'm glad you've decided to stick around and keep reading...

We've been so conditioned to believe responsibility and feelings are both evil, bad, wrong, repulsive, taboo, ugly unwanted options in the living of life... that I commend your courage for sticking with me here.

It's a crazy world. And SOOOOO MANY problems could be resolved - ended - for good - if we all just stopped for a minute to feel our feelings and accept greater responsibility. And out of feeling and responsibility, the natural progression leads to accepting authority for your life.

It's a crazy world. And it's only going to get better one person at a time.

I can't make you 'get it' that feeling your feelings and accepting greater responsibility are not only so valuable for changing and healing and growing your life in positive ways... but they're also the most fun you can have in a human body! Because there aren't enough trees to provide enough paper.

Besides, I'd get writers cramp.

All I can say is give it a try. Watch the magic happen for yourself. Start by affirming those three little statements. And mean it. Truly give yourself permission. Honestly be willing. I've even been known to write out those statements a time or two.

I've felt the magic - I've SEEN the magic - I've LIVED the changes that can happen when you feel your feelings - ALL your feelings... When you seek out and accept greater responsibility. And when you understand - truly understand - that YOU are the only authority in your life. I've watched the pain go away. I've noticed the struggle almost disappear.

I've reveled in the joy and ease and fun of living life; the way it was meant to be. And I want more. I'm sick of trying to think my feelings instead of feeling them. I'm tired of avoiding responsibility. I'm fed up with the lie that some outside authority has control over me.

And forcing my ego or my inner child to drive my life? They don't even have driver's licenses! It's kind of scary in the backseat anyway...

That's why:

"I give myself permission to feel ALL my feelings."

"I am willing to accept greater and greater responsibility."

"I am the authority in my life."

Those are the only positive affirmations I need. What about you? What are you willing to do? What do you give yourself permission to do? Who runs your life?

Author's Bio: 

Mark Ivar Myhre, The Emotional Healing Wizard, offers a FREE E-Book on the secrets of emotional healing. To download YOUR copy, go to ==> www.emotional-healing-guide.com