Most people have been conditioned by their previous attempts. If you want something to happen you have to make it happen, wishful thinking begets more of the same. Self-approval and self-acceptance works wonders when you’re changing your lifestyle. First, give yourself permission to be healthy, fit, satisfied or whatever you want to change. Always keep in mind that you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. The choices and changes are always up to you. Most New Years resolutions start with great intent and fade fast by the beginning of the next month. Be realistic about what you can and can’t achieve. Writing out your goals helps to commit them to memory. Revisiting them often helps to make sure you’re on the right track.

If you don’t change when, you, want to it won’t work, or it won’t work for long. Also, don’t think of the changes as deprivation. Ex. take the pressure off and allow yourself to have your favorites in small portions to avoid binges. If you over indulge accept the consequences of your choices and don’t complain when your jeans don’t fit. Become accountable for what you choose. Deliberately anticipate and visualize the way you want to be or the change you want to make. Doing this overrides your present subconscious and allows you to reach your goals. New changes and behaviors aren’t comfortable and they take you out of that familiar comfort zone. See how you can do it, emphasis on the word see.

Use experiential imagery to visualize how you want to be. Actually put yourself in the change, see yourself as you would if you were actually were. Hold that image and let it become your new reality. There will be times when you have to rock the boat. We want to be fit, but not at the expense of our present comfy, familiar lifestyle. Who really wants to get up early and exercise or learn to cook healthy? Sometimes you almost have to be obsessive about your growth and many won’t understand it, they’ll think you’re selfish and narcissistic.

Don’t think that want you really want is unattainable. If you think that way it will be. Live and breathe your goals. Remember the saying “If it is to be, it is up to me”. You alone are responsible for the fulfillment of your dreams. Focusing on the reward will help to keep you motivated, set your goals on the joy and anticipation of what’s to come. What you put your attention on grows. Turn your attention to the rewards of staying on track with your healthy eating and exercise. Continue to guide your thoughts to the state of optimum health and fitness that you want. Most importantly believe that you can have it and that you deserve it.

Author's Bio: 

Sandra Garth uses her talent and knowledge to teach her clients real world solutions to weight loss and fitness. Her wellness belief is that making significant changes starts with small steps, the biggest of which occurs between your ears. Sandra teaches that it’s imperative to listen to your inner voice and by accomplishing this; you can hear the voice of your source, and your own divinity guiding you along the way.

A series of health distractions sidelined her, until January of 2005 when she appeared on CNN’s New You Revolution. With the help of Dr. Sanjay Gupta and a team of professionals from the University of Michigan, she regained her health and got back on the fitness bandwagon.

Sandra was born and raised in Saginaw, MI and holds a degree in Liberal Arts from Delta College. She is currently president of the successful and growing company, One Body One Lifetime; and a certified personal trainer. Sandra is an online contributor for NBC-25 television, and host of “Fit Matters” on WUCM Delta College Radio. Her wellness wisdom also benefits many readers through her online newsletter, Fit Matters. Discover more about Sandra at