We all, to some extent, feel jealous. Jealousy is like any other emotion. Some people have it to a less degree, while some people have it in a greater degree. But we all do we have it. Being a little jealous doesn’t cause much trouble since you can overcome it and then forget about it forever. But if you feel jealous easily and feel it to the extreme, I have a bad news and good news for you. The good news is that you are holding so much love for your partner inside. The bad news is that you are showing it in a terrible way, in fact in a worst way possible. Let’s examine this mental cancer and get rid of it here only.

Jealousy arises when you want to possess your partner. Inside you feel that your partner may leave you for somebody else, and this insecurity causes the jealousy in you. You start projecting this feeling on your partner frequently. By suspecting her, you create weird imaginations about your partner. You start getting jealous before anything even happens. What happens later is that she ultimately leaves you for a better or rather a less jealous person. Then you claim that your suspicion was right. However, the truth is that it was your mistrust on her which made her leave you.

You may not like any opposite sex person talking or hanging out with your partner too much. You want her love, happiness, and smiles just for you. Having physical relationship with only you makes sense, but why on earth you don’t want you partner to spread her/his friendliness around? Love is all about making your partner happy. You should be concerned only with her happiness, and not with whom she feels happy with. Do you think she will be able to feel happy with you if you take her away from others? Absolutely not. Nobody likes to be enslaved. Be secure enough that even though she will be meeting with so many people, ultimately she is yours. Freedom is very important in any relationship.

Most importantly, know that love is not some kind of patent or property that only you can have. If your partner starts liking somebody else, it’s not a big deal. Tell her that you still love her like before and by leaving him, your feelings won’t change. Respect her feelings and let her go. You know what, she won’t go. Who wants to leave such a man who loves her with such an unconditional love?

Lastly, I would suggest all my friends to understand the science behind your jealousy and drop it as early as possible. It is a very dangerous emotion. It has destroyed many relationships which could have lasted life long. Feel grateful for your love rather than being jealous.

Author's Bio: 

The author is an Finance student at Baruch college, New York. However, he writes articles on motivation, positive thinking, and on new ways of living. He has been interviewed by the leading newspaper of New York, 'Newsday' ,as well as, by the major newspapers in India. He has a blog where you can read more of his writings, at nolimitsforme.blogspot.com/. His readers are all over USA, as well as, outside the country. Readers are welcome to share any thoughts or problem they are facing in life.