Is There Life After Divorce?

When one door closes another one opens;
But we often look so long and regretfully
Upon the closed door,
That we do not see the ones which are open.
-Alexander Graham Bell

When I ask women who are going through a divorce, “What do you think you can gain from this?”, I’m usually met with blank stares and silence. But, after they think for a bit, I usually see a gleam in their eyes when they say in one form or another, “I’ll get ME back.”

Exactly! This is the sense of self that many people find after they evolve out of their marriage. Notice, I chose the word “evolve”, because, when you go on with life and grow, new joys along with fulfillment and all sorts of possibilities pop up. Sure, along with that also comes some challenges. But you cannot grow if you do not confront things head on, maneuver through it, and keep reaching for your full potential!

So, no matter what stage of divorce you are in, whether you are just thinking about it, in the process of it or several years out, finding YOU again and becoming all you want to be should be your goal.

Beginning Steps to Discover You After Divorce

First, do nothing – After the emotional upheaval of divorce, take time to relax. Easier said than done, I understand. But, if you can give yourself the gift of time to unwind and take it easy for a bit, you will benefit greatly by allowing yourself time to heal as your emotions settle. You have just come to the end of one journey, while another – the rest of your life – is beginning. Take some time to rest before you enter your new journey.

Next, do something- Fill yourself with positive energy and rejuvenate. Time with loved ones, eating well, and restful sleep is a must. Do something just for you. Take time to grow by signing up for a course, pick up your camera again, join a gym or start a project you have put on hold. Remember to infuse fun into your life and sprinkle in lots of laughter and smiles too.

Then, create a plan – Where do you go from here? This is a big question, I know! Now that you have given yourself the gift of time, you may have more clarity as to what it is that you desire for your future. Begin by dividing your life into parts such as, career, personal growth, family, friends, finance and spirituality. Then think of what you desire in these areas and what steps you can take to move in that direction. Consult with trusted advisors or professions to assist you in this planning so you are sure to have the guidance of an objective opinion aimed at helping you create the life you desire.

So, is there life after divorce? You bet there is! But, it is up to you to create a life that is happy, fulfilling and most of all, is created by you with your unique passions and desires in mind!