There are two questions that we are frequently asked regarding the Law of Attraction. The primary questions are usually about money and how to obtain it, but the other question that is frequently asked is: "How do I find the confidence in myself to feel that I can apply the Law of Attraction adequately to attain all my desires?" This is a valid question and is one worth further consideration.

It is a good idea to start with how you feel about yourself. If you are concerned about others' opinions and how people feel about you, you'll want to change your perceptions of yourself. When you worry about what others will think of you, this only attracts to you more people and situations that bring you more concerns about yourself. How do you stop the cycle? How do you gain the confidence to make your own decisions without another's opinions? How do you 'not care' when you actually do care what people think of you?

Lee and I have a mantra we go by: Don't be who you think you are, be who you wish to be.

Now let's examine this thought a step further: Don't be who you think others think you are; be who you want to be, not what others tell you that you are.

It sounds easy and, believe it or not, it is. Think about it. Is it important to care what others think of you? If it is important, then why? Is it going to be the end of the world if someone doesn't like you? Is it the 'end all be all' if someone looks at you the wrong way? It feels like it is the end if you let it affect you.

Think about the freedom in not worrying about what others think of you. How can you gain some of that freedom? By letting others have their perceptions of you and not buying into what they seemingly see. Who knows you better? Have these other people ever walked in your shoes? So why do they have some strange power over you to make you feel that you need to care what they think? You have the freedom to create who you want to be. No one can change that.

So who do you want to be? If you could create all the qualities for yourself, what would they be? Would you be happy as that person you just created? And assuming you become this person you created, does it still matter that you'll likely have the same amount of detractors offering up more negative opinions?

Be who you wish to be; be that girl/guy who is the one that you would admire and who is happy with life. Start being that person now. You can take on the traits you desire now. See yourself as that adventuresome hang glider surrounded by friends who truly see and appreciate you for who you are; a wonderful human being.

Take a look in the mirror. Look yourself right in the eyes and tell yourself, without looking away, what you like about that person in the mirror. If there are qualities that you wish to possess, tell yourself how great it is to have those qualities. You may feel like you are 'faking' it at first but your subconscious doesn't know the difference between real and fake so keep telling it until you feel the shift. You will become the person that you are wishing to be. Your former self will merge with this new confident person. Hold your shoulders back and walk with confidence. Even if you don't feel confident, by taking the confident walk, you body receives those signals. Others will see confidence and in turn you will feel confident.

When you have this newfound confidence and understand that your world is the only world you should create and that everyone else is creating their world, you can choose to be an actor in their play (their world) or just choose to be an extra in their play with a small part and be a lead role in your play. The more attention you put toward another's perceptions, the more they become a part of your world and their part in your play gets bigger according to the attention that you give it.

You are the one in control of it. You decide who you want to be in your play. Give them a small part or a larger part. It is entirely up to you who you give more attention to.

Once you have gained the confidence in yourself and know exactly what you want to be and have no doubts, the Universe will bring more confident situations and people to you that will compliment your own wonderful confident vibrations.

Author's Bio: 

Beth and Lee McCain are full time instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction, or better known as the Secret, in your life to attain whatever you desire. For more information, please visit: