Do you want to live a happy and fulfilling life, but at the same time keep finding yourself feeling as though you're taking one step forward and two steps back all of the time? Does this inconsistency in how you feel frustrate you? The good news is you're not alone. Even better, here's a simple step you can begin to take right now that will help you break free from this one-step/two-step shuffle.

I've come to understand that there are seven simple steps anyone can follow which will immediately lead to more happiness and a greater feeling of self fulfillment in your life. In this article, I'm going to focus on the sixth of these happiness steps -- and it's one that may very well be the root of the pattern of inconsistency in the level of happines you are experiencing.

Happiness Step Number Six: Pay Attention To Your Language

This may seem obvious (or not), but the language you use with others and especially with yourself establishes an emotional tone in your mind.

You've no doubt noticed that you have an ongoing commentary in your head. Many refer to it as your "monkey chatter" and it's literally non-stop. It's as if you have a sports commentator running around with you analyzing and commenting on your most recent "play" and performance.

Sadly for most of us, that commentary is almost exclusively focused on the negative. You'll hear your commentary say things like "that was dumb", "how could I be so stupid", "things never work out for me", and so on.

What kind of impact do you suppose such ongoing commentary has on your mind and your beliefs about yourself? How can you feel good about yourself if you're constantly being told you're not good enough? You can't.

So the solution is very simple. Choose your words and language carefully. Choose the words you think and choose the words you speak.

By becoming more aware of and where you use disempowering language, and then making a point of correcting, you will find yourself beginning to feel better and happier about yourself and where you're going.

Words and Phrases to Use

  • I will
  • I choose
  • However
  • Opportunity
  • I am committed
  • Definitely
  • Create
  • I'm moving forward
  • I'm going to
  • Now
  • Today
  • I can
  • I deserve
  • Assist
  • When
  • I will
  • Completed
  • I'm Finished
  • Done

Words and Phrases to Avoid

  • Probably
  • I think
  • But
  • Problem
  • I can't afford
  • Maybe
  • Work
  • I'm stuck
  • I want to
  • Later
  • Tomorrow
  • I can't
  • I need
  • Help
  • If
  • I'll try
  • Failed
  • I'm still ...
  • Possibly

As you can see, there's no rocket science here. Your language is either definitive and empowering or it's indefinitive and disempowering. Always choose the words that will support you and avoid words that undermine you. Stay away from words like "don't", "not", and "no".

If you're like most people, once you pay attention to the language you're using when you think and speak, you'll be amazed at how negative and unsupportive it really is.

Would you like more information about how to build the habit of supportive language and how that enables you to live a happier, healthier life? I've co-written an entire program that reveals how easily you can begin to find true happiness, starting today.

Sign up for my free introductory eCourse here: How to Live A Happy Life

Author's Bio: 

Warren Wojnowski is an avid student of personal growth and self improvement. He is a respected writer, teacher and Intrinsic Coach® who is very willing to share what he's learned (or still learning), what's working, and what isn't. Warren says "If you have an aspect of your life in which you feel stuck, whether in your life or your business, I can help you get back on track and start living the life you want".