Your happiness and self fulfillment is ultimately your true purpose in life. So, if you're like most people, you just want to feel happier and live with more purpose in your life right now. So what is it that is holding you back and preventing your from being able to do that? What is it that is getting in the way of you enjoying your life the way you want to -- the way you are meant to -- right now?

I've come to understand that there are seven simple steps anyone can follow which will immediately lead to more happiness and a greater feeling of self fulfillment in your life. In this article, I'm going to focus on the fifth of these happiness steps -- and it's the one that may very well be holding you back from the more exhilarating and joyful life you truly deserve.

Happiness Step Number Five - Fear, Doubt and Worry Are All In Your Head

We live in a society that is preoccupied with all of the things that can go wrong in our lives. It dominates the news, water cooler conversations, television, radio ... everything. As a result, it also tends to dominate your thinking.

What's the result? Fear.

You're taught to be fearful of your financial future. You're taught to be fearful of your safety. You're taught to be fearful of your health.

This creates a tremendous psychological burden your must carry. How can you possibly feel happy about your life when you constantly carry around fearful thoughts about your future? You can't. And the fear spills over into constant self doubt and worry. The result, you become paralyzed, unable to think clearly and unable to take any confident action that might help you break free from your present gloom and doom.

  1. The things you fear are generally imagined outcomes. When you stop to think about it, the fear you feel is an instinctive response. Your brain perceives a threat to your safety which heightens your alertness and creates a fight or flight response. And this serves you well in circumstances where there is an imminent physical threat. However, the vast majority of fears you carry in the modern world are what I call psychological fears. They are about outcomes you imagine will happen in the future that you don't want. Yet the sense of fear you feel around them is very real and the impact can be debilitating because your fight or flight response is kicking in in the present.
  2. Ask yourself "What's real?" Consider for a moment the number of things you have been afraid will happen to you? How many of them have actually happened? The fact is, the vast majority of things you are fearful about and spend so much of your energy worrying about never come to be. But think about the emotional cost and the toll your obsession on your fears has cost you. Have your fears, doubt, and worry held you back from pursuing your dreams? Think about this for a minute. Isn't a dream simply an imagined future outcome that you do want? The only difference between a fear and a dream is that one represents what you do want while the other represents what you do want. They're both imagined future outcomes.
  3. Shift your focus on to your dream. Once you understand that your fears merely represent an undesirable future outcome, you're half way to overcoming them. Because now you are acutely aware of what you don't want. So the trick becomes to ask yourself what it is you do want. What is it you want that negates the fear? The minute you answer that question, you've begun to focus on your dreams. By placing your focus on your dreams, you begin to place your mental thought energy on what steps you can take to move yourself forward towards them. The minute you start doing that ... guess what? You begin to feel better and more on purpose. Now you've put yourself in a position where you are able to observe your fears and then use that awareness to place your attention on your dreams instead.

Would you like more information about how to shift your focus away from your fears and onto your dreams? I've co-written an entire program that reveals how easily you can begin to follow your dreams and experience true happiness, starting today. Sign up for my free introductory eCourse here: How to Live a Happy Life

Author's Bio: 

Warren Wojnowski is an avid student of personal growth and self improvement. He is a respected writer, teacher and Intrinsic Coach who is very willing to share what he's learned (or still learning), what's working, and what isn't. Warren says "If you have an aspect of your life in which you feel stuck, whether in your life or your business, I can help you get back on track and start living the life you want".