Many single people I meet tell me that they are "looking for the right love partner". What's interesting to me is that despite the popularity of the Law of Attraction movie, The Secret, few people are able to translate its teachings into attracting their dream love partner.

The common misconception is that we have to look "out there" for our perfect partner...that somehow meeting the right person is just "luck". Yet the Law of Attraction states that we create everything in our "outside reality" through our "inside reality". In other words, our thoughts and beliefs manifest into material form.

When I ask single people what their future dream partner will be like, they tell me things like, "oh, I want him to be really fun, nice and loving...good with kids" but not much else. When I question them for more detail (how old is he? what are her interests, does he have to love kids?, what does she look like?), they are stumped. Their descriptions are generally rather vague at best.

Then I tell them exactly what I asked for (and received) from The Universe when I consciously manifested my dream partner:

"I am happily living with my dream partner, who is a gorgeous, hunky guy who absolutely loves to take good care of me. He loves to give me massages and cook for me, and he enjoys all the things I love to do: figure skating, yoga, dance, personal growth seminars. He is intuitive and very interested in personal growth and intimacy. He is ideally between 5 foot 9 and 5 foot 10 inches tall because he is my perfect skating partner too. He is incredibly talented and athletic and we skate competitively on the National level in adult figure skating. We have a blast skating with each other! He loves being a dad, loves to take care of the home, and is sensitive and artistic like I am. I am in heaven!"

Usually when I tell single people my "tall order" to The Universe, their jaws hit the floor. Most people have no idea that they can ask The Universe for what they want in such detail...they are afraid to. They are afraid that if they ask for too much, they will be disappointed. It is this FEAR that prevents people from truly asking for their heart's desire and this fear resonates a vibration to The Universe bringing them more of what they don't want!

In the first section of my eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life - Harness the Law of Attraction to Manifest Your Dream Partner, I teach you step-by-step how to create your request to The Universe. First, understand that you must make a CLEAR request of The Universe. Most people don't get what they want because they don't KNOW what they want or they are unclear.

One of the exercises I have you do is to make a laundry list of qualities your ideal partner would possess. There is a list of questions in the book that will guide you, including all those elements of your "wish list" that are important, and excluding those that are unimportant. So the first step is to make your laundry list.

The second step is to create a precise "wish" statement or intention using the following guidelines: It must start with "I am" followed by a summary of the "wish list" you have created. Every sentence MUST be written in present tense as if it is happening NOW (see my example above). The Law of Attraction responds to like vibrations so you must experience the vibration in the NOW, as already having received, in order to manifest your dream.

The third step in creating your intention is to read your statement out loud, proclaiming it to The Universe. If you feel excited and happy when you read it out loud, then you've done a good job...if not, then you may need to rework your statement until you positively glow with happiness as you read it. It must resonate with your core in order for you to harness the law of attraction in love!

After you have created your detailed "wish" statement, or intention, we move on to honing the skill of "vibrating" at the level of magnetic attraction. This skill is also called "embodying". More on that in a future article!

Author's Bio: 

Dr. Karen Kan is a law of attraction author and coach specializing in helping single people create the love life of their dreams. Her revolutionary eBook, Creating Your Fairytale Love Life - Harness the Law of Attraction to Manifest Your Dream Partner, is a step-by-step guide to consciously manifesting your ideal love partner. To download the first three chapters of the eBook for free, go to