Are you or have you been “over”involved with someone who has introduced you to the experience of being in Hell? Forsake not! This type of relationship is absolutely necessary for you to go through, as it prepares your entrance into the next stage of soulmate transcendence.

I understand how much pain and suffering you're going through just trying to survive and make a soulmate from Hell relationship work, and it is not my intention to be lighthearted. Just remember … there is a Spirit inside of you … one that is desperately trying to lift you out of emotional pain and up to the next, higher level of your spiritual journey. Pain becomes the catapult and springboard for you to reach into the heavens and finally make contact with your true heavenly soulmate.

Relationships, and that includes marriage, are intended to take you through different levels of spiritual growth and elevation. Your descent down into relationship Hell teaches you to fully appreciate your need to ascend to a higher level of spiritual potential. The person in your life, who has introduced you to Hell, is really there to instrumentally propel you to that potential. So, thank that person and thank God for allowing you to go through the experience in order to elevate you to union with Him!

If being in soulmate Hell has been something from your past, then express gratitude to God for sending that person who sprung you to a higher level of spiritual consciousness. King David was a very unhappy man until he went through the fires of Hell, damnation and then eventual resurrection and elevation into soulmate heaven through the vessel instrument sent by God, called Bathsheba. All that David knew and lived before that moment became shattered, only to be repaired through redemption and salvation, leading to his soulmate marriage to Bathsheba and the heavenly gift of his son Solomon.

Preparation, Effort and Self-Work

The King David story may be a recurring theme in your own life. If so, it can help point out the redemptive preparation process you must go through in order to realize your cosmic soulmate potential. By understanding the cosmic pattern and map that leads to higher spiritual development, you will pass through the fires of redemption and receive the soulmate bounty that God has particularly reserved just for you.

Are you ready and prepared to face the spiritual challenge to work on yourself; in order to elevate your spiritual consciousness to higher levels, to the point where you are worthy to receive the heavenly gift of your better half / soulmate? If you refuse the challenge to work on yourself, you will be destined to remain locked into a soulmate from Hell relationship. If this is your fate, destiny, or Karma, then waiting for something to happen will only occur when crisis stirs the sparks and fires within your soul. Even if your spirit is encased in cement, you can still pray, chant, cry and meditate yourself out of your prison and into a higher state of cosmic heavenly connection.

Your eventual union with the Holy One will give you that magnificent glance into soulmate heaven, where the stars and the planets come together to merge you into your perfect soulmate match. In the meantime, your current time in soulmate Hell is preparation for receiving God's release of your soulmate into your heart and Spirit. If you are one of the lucky few who have completely realized your cosmic union with the Divine and your true soulmate, then give thanks that you have reached that level of consciousness where you are capable of receiving what God wishes to impart to you.

Love Your Neighbor

Since you are the vessel for receiving God's beneficence and gifts, it now becomes your duty to open your heart in order to give and impart what God wants you to give to his other creatures. This is the essence of the gift of "Love Thy Neighbor as Yourself."

In the mystical Chassidic tradition, the giving of "Tzedakah" (Charity), is the required response to "Love Your Neighbor as Yourself," as you have been the recipient of God's Desire to Impart. Relationships from Hell develop because of the sins accumulated through the excessive need to receive. Soulmates from Hell have fallen into the sins of not being able to give and impart God's bounty to one another. Hell-like relationships are characterized by excessive unfulfilled need and the desire not to impart. Love has gone out the window and hate penetrates the souls of Hell-mates.

Soulmates from heaven are able to impart God's love to one another. Therefore, self-hatred is replaced by self-love that overflows and fills the universe. Soulmate relationships are characterized by an environment where the very particles of the air are saturated by the energies of soul love. If someone who possesses hell-like self-hatred enters into the environment of a heavenly soulmate relationship, a repulsion of this hell-like Tsouris (Yiddish for “trouble”) will occur. The purity of heavenly soulmate relationships needs to be maintained and sustained by the heavenly Spirit in the primordial light of God (ein sof).

This type of soulmate love needs to be kept clean and constantly renewed by self-work through spiritual discipline, soul cleansing, pain eradication, prayer, meditation and gratitude expression. All things are of God and divinely bestowed by Him. Nothing is ours. We are just the recipients of God's beneficence and desire to impart. If we were meant to just receive, then we would not be partners in God's infinite and eternal capacity for loving. Therefore, the Holy One requires that we constantly open our hearts and extend his neverending love to all of creation. In doing so, our souls are fed and our emotional rewards become tenfold.

A Heart Opening Meditation to Follow:

“Heavenly Father, open my heart and allow your never ending, everlasting unlimited love to flow through me, to all creation.”

“Forgive me and release me from all my past sins, crimes, filth and unclean leanings. Redeem me from past crimes, sins and trespasses.”

“Raise me up, resurrect me from the death of the past and elevate me to the choir of Angels and allow me into the presence of your holy throne.”

“Facilitate me to enter into complete servitude to your will. I surrender completely to allow you to pass completely through me as I release my ego in sacrifice. I am gone and only You are there. I am but a shadow through which your holy spirit illuminates the universe.”

“Dig a hole deep into the earth and the planet and extend my capacity for love and compassion deep into this physical and spiritual world.”

“Release me from the hold of the world and my ego, so that my compassion streams out through the cosmos and penetrates every living and nonliving thing.”

“Fill me with the unlimited capacity to love my neighbor as myself even if he or she can only extract hatred from me. Put a hold on my hatred and permit me only to love. Love... love... love and more love.”

Author's Bio: 

Paul J. Hannig, Ph.D. is a California Marriage and Family Therapist and Psychospiritual Counselor. In addition to private practice, he has made his expertise available to people everywhere via his Telephone Therapy Program. A full description of his specialties and therapy programs can be found at his PsychotherapyHELP web site at He can be reached via email at