You have to change if you want your life to change. There is no question about it. When you are living life and not enjoying what it is giving out to you, the only way to change it is by changing your thoughts and feelings to reflect the life that you desire. So how can someone just change his or her thoughts when they have been thinking in the same negative way for so long? By deconstructing the negative thought patterns and building new perceptions for life.

Deconstructing your thought patterns is not for the faint of heart. Each and every day we have some thoughts that can cause our lives to stay in a repetitive cycle; one that never seems to change. When you begin to deconstruct your own thought patterns, you will find repetitive thinking patterns that you never knew you had.

Let's say your particular desire is to have a meaningful relationship. Begin by writing down the qualities that you would like to experience in an ideal relationship. Once you have written them down, without any prejudice see what you wrote as already happened. Maybe you wrote that you want someone who brings you flowers everyday and shows you romanticism on a daily basis. Think about what you want and see what thoughts keep popping up. Maybe your logical mind says Are you kidding? That doesn't even exist anymore! By finding the thought pattern that keeps you from your desire you can look at it, see if you want to keep it and if you don't… get rid of it and replace it with a positive thought. You may not even know why you had those particular thoughts. They could have come from a family member who had a bad experience in relationship and it lived on through generation to generation.

If Aunt Millie was a person who didn't like romantics she could have told your mom when she was little that romantics are weak men and then your mom may have had this thought that could have then been passed on to you. Do you see how this works? You don't need to find out why, just find the thoughts that you don't want or need any longer and then find a replacement for what you do want. When you find your replacement, an example could be something like this: "Romantics do exist and there is one for me that is being brought to me right now."

Get this positive thought so that you know it well and when the other thought pattern tries to horn in on this new way of thinking replace the old thought with the new thought. When you begin to do this and it becomes habit then the subconscious mind will begin to pick up your new thoughts and automatically repeat it within your mind and that is what will bring you what you want.

Just by performing a little deconstruction you can replace those negative thoughts with the positive thoughts and that is what will bring you the world that you so deserve and desire with the Law of Attraction.

Author's Bio: 

Beth and Lee McCain are instructors and lecturers in applying the Law of Attraction to your life to attain whatever you desire. They have a great Law of Attraction radio show on Youtube that is both entertaining and informative. For more information about Beth and Lee products and services, please visit: Beth and Lee McCain Law of Attraction Web Site