Did you ever have a moment when you noticed someone’s non-verbal gestures or physiology totally contradicted what they were saying? Or, while you were speaking, someone’s facial expressions were so animated you could tell exactly what they were thinking?

No doubt you have. I find it fascinating — and sometimes very entertaining.

Even better: Although it can be distracting, I’ve experienced the phenomenon so many times that I now use the moment of realization to signal me to actively listen so I don’t get caught up simply watching someone’s facial gymnastics. As a result, my communications skills have improved dramatically.

Everyone expresses emotions differently, and in the seminar setting, people will often times share some deep, personal stuff. That’s cool. In my public presentation role as a speaker, trainer, and motivator I see all of the typical expressions you can imagine. Being in front of a crowd lends an interesting perspective for evaluating physiology and faces. Instead of just seeing one face you’re seeing, say, five hundred. And (ideally) they’re all looking at you!

People laugh at the funny stuff … cry when I talk about Christopher Reeve … and display every emotion in between. Those faces inspire me Big Time and Real Time when I’m presenting, I get jazzed and that feedback elevates the energy of my talk Every Time.

Still … Every now and then I get a Doubting Thomas in the audience. You know who I’m talking about, the kind of person who already knows everything there is to know about business and life.

Case on point: I was in Puerto Rico recently giving a motivational talk at a company’s annual awards meeting and, there he was. He was sitting … with his arms folded across his chest … rolling his eyes back … wrenching his neck … and almost flinging his head off his shoulders when I began to talk about goals and how every day matters.

I’m often asked by the CEO or the person running the event to talk about goals somewhere in my program. It’s a big topic. Everybody knows the importance of goals but I’ve discovered that most people don’t invest the time to write them down in detail.

Wait! Wait! Don’t worry. Today’s FYI isn’t about goals. Don’t be like my friend in Puerto Rico and roll your eyes or move on to your next email. I want to share with you something more important than goals.

What I’m talking about is better defined as…

Daily Intricacies

Think back about the description of my friend’s actions and reactions in Puerto Rico.

Q: Did his reactions affect his ability to learn something new?

The answer is:

YES…Absolutely! He was not aware (or maybe he was) that I could see every emotion he was processing. More importantly, he was unaware that he was cutting off his ability to receive information that could have benefited him.

Those are Daily Intricacies. They are virtually transparent and sort of tucked inside of goals. You do them automatically and you’re usually not cognizant of them until someone points them out to you.

This might sound like I’m describing habits to you, and you’re partly right.

So here’s the $64,000 Question: Are any of your “daily intricacies” affecting your ability to learn something new?

The answer is:

YES…Absolutely! Your daily thoughts, daily intricacies and habits are what shape the outcome of your day, week, month, year and life.

FYI Takeaway: I want you to consider how your “daily intricacies” … tied to your daily habits … might be affecting your ability to be receptive to information that could help you become more.

Something to think about: My friend Vic Johnson - infopreneur, internet marketer and multi-millionaire - helped me become conscious of thinking about what I’m thinking about. (And - duh - that’s something to think about.) At Vic’s live seminars he hands out a wrist band that has the letters W.A.I.T. on it.

The acronym stands for What Am I Thinking? Most people go through the day not thinking. It’s like being on auto-pilot. We think, but we don’t stop to think about what we are thinking about.

Did you ever say to yourself, “What was I thinking?” Good question to ask, but the tense of the verb is wrong. “Was” is past tense and you want to challenge your mindset and assumptions before the fact, which is to say before you act - not after.

You see, to create your Best Year Ever! - which leads to a Best Life Ever! - Every Day Matters. Your daily thoughts and actions matter.

Lots of people are credited with this next quote, but regardless of who said it first, it stands true.

You Become What You Think About

The title of this FYI could have been Every Day Matters or, since we’ve stepped into the land of spelling and grammar, Everyday Matters. My Everyday Matters help me realize that Every Day Matters. What I am thinking and doing consistently will either drive me down or catapult me forward toward the goals I’ve set for myself.

What are your Everyday/Every Day Matters?

Here are some peoples’: Gossiping, complaining, negative thinking, junk food, arguing, excessive television and excessive partying.

Here are mine: Family, work, exercise, proper nutrition, writing /creating, positive thinking, personal and professional development, friends, tub-time, and reading to my kids. There are more … but this gives you an idea.

What are yours?

FYI ACTION IDEA: I want to encourage you to THINK about YOUR Everyday Matters, your Daily Intricacies and how they affect your Every Day Matters. They all lead to creating YOUR Best Year Ever! and a life filled with love, joy and abundance.

Go Out and Make This Your Best Year Ever!

Author's Bio: 

Eric Taylor is the Chief Inspiration Officer of SelfGrowth.com and founder of New Jersey based Empowerment Group International. He delivers more than 100 energized and interactive keynotes, workshops and seminars each year to corporations, associations and tradeshows. He is the author of the Energy Passport, Co-creator of the Best Year Ever! Success System and Co-author of The Complete Sales Training Encyclopedia. To get complete details about Eric’s background, his products and services, visit Eric Taylor’s Blog and review Eric Taylor’s Profile.