Create Your Own Reality by Understanding the Law of Attraction

You create your own reality. That is the essence of The Law of Attraction (LOA).

The Law of Attraction is often described as “Like Attracts Like.” While that is true on some levels it is also a simplification of the Law. The fact that it is a Universal Law means that it is always operating whether you know it or not. It is more constant than the Law of Gravity. You can find ways to overcome the Law of Gravity to fly an airplane or launch a rocket. The Law of Attraction cannot be overcome.

Although the Law of Attraction is a Universal Law, it can also be described in scientific terms as a theory.

The first definition of Theory as defined by® is “a well-substantiated explanation of some aspect of the natural world; an organized system of accepted knowledge that applies in a variety of circumstances to explain a specific set of phenomena.”

The third definition at Wordnet® says a theory “is a belief that can guide behavior.”

So the Law of Attraction is definitely a theory. And while the LOA is not a tool to be wielded like a hammer, when it is used to guide behavior you can improve the quality of your life.

Just talking about the LOA, without getting more fundamental, glosses over the basic underlying truth that you create your own reality. You create your own reality and the Law of Attraction is the force that makes that possible.

Thoughts Create Reality?

You create your own reality. The question is then; are you doing it consciously or unconsciously? Well, the truth is you are always creating your reality both consciously and unconsciously. Much of this unconscious creation is guided by limiting beliefs usually formed as very small children. Perhaps no one still living on this plane of existence is free from unconscious creation. Learning to create consciously may be part of the work we come to this life to do.

You create your reality by what you give your attention to. So if you give your attention to things that you are happy and grateful for, then you will create more things to be happy and grateful about. If you give your attention to complaining and negativity then you will create more things to complain about.

Therefore your work is to continually create more of your life consciously. One way to do that is to focus on your thoughts. You can take conscious control of some of your thoughts by the use of affirmations.

But with over 50,000 thoughts a day, it is impossible to control every thought that you have. That’s why recommends using your guidance system. The universe created you as a perfect being; therefore it provided you with a guidance system. Your guidance system works on a vibrational basis.

Your feelings Are Your Guidance System

Abraham explain what your vibrational guidance system is in Ask and it is Given :

Anything that you give your attention to will become your “truth” and help to create your own reality. The Law of Attraction says that it must. Your life, and everyone else’s, too, is but a reflection of the predominance of your thoughts. There is no exception to this. p.56

Once you begin to understand the correlation between what you are thinking, what you are feeling, and what you are receiving, now you have it. Now you hold all the keys that are necessary to get from wherever you are to wherever you want to be, on all subjects. p.58

When emotions are strong-whether they feel good or feel bad – your desire is strong. When emotions are weak, your desire is not strong.

When emotions feel good – whether they are strong or weak-you are allowing the fulfillment of your desire.

When emotions feel bad – whether they are strong or weak-you are in the state of disallowing the fulfillment of your desire.

Your emotions are absolute indicators of your vibrational content. Therefore, they are the perfect reflection of your current point of attraction. They help you know, in any moment, whether or not you are currently allowing the fulfillment of your desire. p.66

Using the Law of Attraction

So using the Law of Attraction to create your own reality is really about using your guidance system.

The simple 3 Step formula for creating what you want is

1 – Ask
2 – Allow
3 – Receive

The hardest part of that formula is Step 2 – Allow. That’s where you get into the work of making sure that you and your guidance system are pointed in the direction of what you want. There may be limiting beliefs or habitual negativity that keep you point in direction of what you don’t want. You can know if this is the case, if you think about what you want and your mind comes back with any of the following statements:

“I can never do that.”
“That’s impossible.”
“But I don’t have the money.”
“But I’m not attractive enough.”

Or any other thought that negates what you just said you wanted. If you get a negative or defeating feeling that is the same as having the verbal or nonverbal negative thought. Those thoughts can get in the way when you are working to create your own reality.

Fortunately there are ways to turn around those negative and limiting beliefs. The many processes provided in Ask and It is Given and Abraham’s other books to help you direct your feelings and guidance system so that you are moving in the direction of what you want.

One great resource for pointing your guidance system towards what you want is the processes and workshop notes page created by the Abraham Appreciators.

Please be easy on yourself. It has taken years to create the reality you are currently living. It will most likely take some time to shift your thoughts, feelings and beliefs to create what you really want. Just remember the old adage:

Mile by mile, life's a trial.
Yard by yard, life is hard.
But inch by inch, life's a cinch!

Author's Bio: 

I am an author and a Next Action Coach. My background includes a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica. In addition to my personal journey of spiritual discovery, I have spent over 20 years in Corporate America. I like to think of myself as grounded in the practical world while having my head in the clouds. Visit my website