Self-confidence is the capacity to trust oneself as well as one's abilities. This attribute is essential to one's accomplishments during one's lifetime. This characteristic encourages people to know in their self-worth and that they can succeed in their actions. Even persons who lack this strength can start to boost their self confidence.

Without self-confidence, the majority of people become unable to realize life goals. They are often ineffective in relationships, academic endeavors, and job situations. They may develop a social phobia, and tend to be awkward in social situations. Those who lack self-confidence may be reluctant to try to set or labor toward goal accomplishment; these people know that they are about to fail. They are convinced that they are lesser or less capable than those around them. They usually do fail because of their lack of belief in themselves.

On the other hand, the individual capable of gaining self confidence will find himself or herself equipped to correct this cycle of despair and be able to find a cure for this social phobia. This individual will find that building self confidence causes amazing improvements in relationships and academic achievements. Occasionally, an employment prospect might be a product of actions taken to boost self-confidence.

Individuals might not boost self-confidence for many reasons. Some had domineering parents, or been teased often during their school years. Some struggled educationally or socially. Others simply did not have success at making friends or encounter the positive backing of peers, parents, or teachers. Many of these individuals fight against a self-perception of inadequacy and incompetence.

Often, individuals who were not able to improve self confidence during childhood are unable to do this in adulthood. They have been unable to learn how to effect this, and usually learn only if they look for the help and support of friends or professional helpers. Many people have difficulty admitting the presence of such obstacles, and instead continue to struggle along all their lives.

Several strategies are sometimes utilized to assist individuals to boost self confidence. Many styles of counseling therapies, including behavioral therapy or group treatments, may be employed to teach people how to gain self confidence. Numerous self-help books have been published to encourage individuals to build self-confidence. Therapists even provide instructional sessions and retreats structured to help people boost self confidence.

While each of these techniques can be useful, two alternative treatments that are easily learned and amazingly effective for a majority of people who use them are confidence hypnosis and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Professionals who employ confidence hypnosis are usually capable of coaching people to develop self confidence and greatly improve both their outlooks and their capacities to succeed in life.

Traditional hypnosis (employing post-hypnotic suggestions) is often quite beneficial. It is most helpful for people who are suggestible and easily led. This technique frequently is not effective with people who tend to be analytical or think critically.

For people who fit the latter category, Ericksonian hypnotherapy and NLP therapies are much more successful. These approaches are excellent for successfully relating to the unconscious mind, which is the seat of our emotions. This is because they bypass the resistance that analytical people have to the more traditional suggestion type of hypnosis.

One of the NLP techniques that clients are frequently taught for improving self confidence is called anchoring. Anchoring is a natural experience. For instance, if you hear an old song, and have feelings of deja vu, it's because the subconscious connected the sensations in a past situation, with the music that was playing at the time. So now when you hear the music again, the subconscious triggers the memories associated with it. In effect, the song anchors those feelings.

Using the technique known as anchoring, clients are reminded of an instance where they did experience the emotions of confidence. As they recall and re-experience those feelings, they are coached to touch two fingers together. The subconscious then connects the feelings of confidence with this physical action. If the client contends that he or she has no recollection of an emotion of self-confidence, they can develop an imaginary event in which they do see themselves being confident, and then anchor that instance of confidence.

After anchoring the emotions of confidence, in those situations that demand self-confidence, touching the fingers together triggers memories of confidence that are useful in the present situation.

A very useful NLP too called the "Flash" may be utilized to immediately substitute painful feelings, which are often associated with a lack of self-confidence. Because of this method, the mind diverts the mental images that create a negative feeling, to trigger mental pictures to generate a good emotion.

For instance, the person programs the subconscious to employ the mental cues that trigger feelings of insecurity, as triggers for mental images that cause perceptions of confidence. Our mental images trigger our emotions.

We all have dreams, and desires. Many people can work toward these to realize their dreams. Others, however, permit their low self-confidence to overwhelm them. Even though NLP does not help every person, the overwhelming majority of persons who have used this technique tell of significant success in building self confidence. This strategy is often better than other approaches for most people.

Summary: Those who lack self-confidence often find it difficult to succeed in many areas of their lives. Several components cause people to acquire social phobias or feelings of incompetence. Many therapies have been developed to assist individuals to build self-confidence. NLP has often been reported to be very beneficial by the majority of clients who have tried this technique.

Author's Bio: 

Alan B. Densky, CH is an NGH certified hypnotherapist. He offers effective self hypnosis CDs for building confidence and social phobias. His self hypnosis for self confidence CDs were independently reviewed in the UK. Visit his Neuro-VISION self hypnosis site and view free hypnosis videos.