Do you know that you can come out of the pain, and suffering from divorce in just one day?

When you start taking control of your healing, by setting yourself a process for recovery, you will come out of the immobilizing pain immediately.

Complete emotional healing takes a series of steps, but nobody has taught us what those steps are and how to implement them in our lives. Once we know that there is a short cut to recovery and that we can use it, we will accelerate the recovery to light speed.

Why waste time suffering and being emotionally hurt when you can use the time to recover and move on as fast as you can. It takes courage to want to heal fast, but it also takes the right method.

The Extreme F.A.S.T. method is an accelerated step by step method that will take you out of pain into recovery faster than you though possible. Just make the decision that you want to get over the pain and suffering in one day and start following this method, the rest will come very fast.

The Extreme F.A.S.T. method stands for Face It, Accept It, See the Lessons and Take Yourself to a New Level. This easy to follow method has only four steps, but it contains all the elements to create a permanent, quick, deep and complete healing.

The first step is to Face It. The alternative to facing it, is denying it. Even though denial is a “natural” stage in any healing process it is unnecessary and it only creates prolonged suffering. You can accelerate your healing process by facing it. Even though it will be painful, it will feel so good afterwards. This first step can be intense and filled with emotional release. The main aspect to face is that the relationship is over. To make it easier, express your feelings and emotions privately, avoid self-destructive behaviors (such as drinking and casual sex) and be your own best friend.

The second step in the Extreme F.A.S.T. healing process is to Accept It. Acceptance means to surrender to what is real, versus what we wish were real. Acceptance also means that we can look into ourselves for honest answers. We can see how we contributed to the situation and how we were partly responsible for it.

The third step is to see the lessons. Life is always guiding us to what is best for us. Through joyful and painful experiences, we learn lessons that help us grow. Sometimes the only way we pay attention to our deep needs, is when we experience pain and suffering. As you learn from these areas you are growing and preparing to get the love you truly deserve. An important question to ask yourself as you see your lessons: Is there anything that you fear about long term relationships?

The fourth and last step of the Extreme F.A.S.T. method is to Take Yourself to a New Level. This means to get to a new level in your life where you can start living your life in a more fulfilling way. Many of the apparently negative experiences we have in our lives guide us to explore new alternatives for ourselves. We may learn new ways of taking care of ourselves, new ways of feeling good about ourselves and new ways of relating to others. By taking small risks that feel comfortable for us, we grow and develop a new sense of self. Your new level of growth will include new levels of: Self-esteem and confidence, positive relationships, passion and Fun, and Love in your life.

Using the Extreme F.A.S.T method can really help you accelerate your healing and get ready for a new love. But the first love you need to develop is with yourself. As you realize that the outside world is a reflection of your internal world, you may want to pay more attention to your feelings, emotions and needs. The pain that some experiences bring into your life is generally a call for you to pay more attention to yourself. So why not start now. Give yourself one day to listen to your heart, to make a decision that you want a productive and fast healing, and that you deserve to follow a fast and effective method that will help you in your recovery. To learn more about the Extreme F.A.S.T. method, visit

© 2004 Jeanette Castelli. Adapted from the book “Extreme Breakup Recovery” by Jeanette Castelli, M.S. A do it yourself Workshop-In-A-Book®. Features a step-by-step guidance through the Extreme F.A.S.T. method: proven for quick, permanent and productive recovery from any divorce or breakup. Includes exercises, worksheets and affirmations. Book (ISBN: 0-9742061-3-X) available at bookstores and online retailers worldwide. Email: Website:

Author's Bio: 

The Author, Jeanette Castelli, M.S. is an expert in self-empowerment, relationships and recovery. She is a self-improvement author, speaker and coach. Her education includes a Bachelor Of Science of Psychology, a Master Of Science of Psychology and a Master Of Business Administration (MBA). Her belief is in self-empowerment to create true changes in life by "doing not just reading." Her books feature an interactive, user-friendly step-by step guidance with practical, real life applications of the theory. She has written "Extreme Breakup Recovery" and "The Joy Of Dating Again" To contact the author email to or visit or