Think of failure as a road you have to travel to arrive at success. This isn't meant to oversimplify failure or treat it lightly; knowing how to deal properly with failure can determine the course of your future and how you will achieve success.

Everyone reacts to failure in different ways and has their own coping mechanisms to handle failed efforts. But learning the mindset and strategies that bring success rather than failure can be a tremendous help!

Here are some time-tested tips for how to pick yourself up after you fail:

1. Learn the lessons from your failure. Every failure comes with a built-in lesson available that you can learn from. Identify this lesson and focus on its importance to you, then remember it as you strive for success. The danger of not learning from failure is that you'll be likely to repeat your mistakes.

2. Don't let failure hold you back. After a failure, it's normal to think you should simply give up. But failure itself isn't the main issue here, it's what you do with it that matters most. It's essential that you aim for greater self-confidence. It may turn out that your recent experience with failure has brought you to the doorstep of great success.

3. Surround yourself with enthusiastic, forward-thinking people. Spending time with positive people who think like you is important. This is never more true than when you're going through a period of low self-confidence following a failure.

* The positive people in your live will encourage you to pick yourself up, try harder and reach further than you ever knew you could.

4. It's important to set goals. It may be that you took on too large a task and failed at it, so think about setting smaller and more immediate goals that you can reach easily. Focus on the small steps required to complete a complex task, so that you aren't overwhelmed at every point along the way. When you finally reach your goal, your achievement will amaze you!

5. Visualize your success. The best way to diffuse the negative thinking that can follow failure is to picture yourself successfully reaching your goal. Give yourself some visualization time to see yourself accomplishing every step along the way.

6. Enthusiasm is essential. It's quite likely you were filled with enthusiasm when you started out on a big task or project. No matter how many times you encounter failure, it's essential that you maintain your enthusiasm as it will continue to fuel the drive you need to reach your goal.

As Sir Winston Churchill once said, "Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm."

7. Write things down. It may help you to keep a detailed written record of your thoughts and goals as well as your attempts at reaching them. This is an organizational strategy that can help keep you focused. Another good plan is to write out goals in a slip of paper and put it where you will see it often - this way you won't forget to keep working toward what you truly want.

8. Don't live in the past. What happened in the past does not automatically determine what will happen now or in the future. A setback is only temporary, and it doesn't mean that's the result you'll get all the time going forward. Simply put, if you want to reach your goals, never give up.

9. Consider the worst-case scenario. If you try something and fail, what's the worst that can happen? Some people who are obsessed with success have an equally deep fear of failure; these people are unable to see that the worst case scenario could turn out to be not that bad after all!

* If you can keep in mind that any failure you encounter is just a bump in the road to success, your fears will dissolve and your confidence will grow.

Never Give Up

Most of us know someone who has single-mindedly pursued a goal and wouldn't let anything get in their way. There's no reason why you couldn't be that person, too! Understand what fuels this enthusiastic drive for success and adopt it for yourself.

Having a strong belief in your own abilities can give you the confidence you need to pursue your dreams.

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