8 Signs That You Are Avoiding "YOU"...

Here are 8 signs that you're in reaction...you're moving away from a feeling or experience rather than moving toward wholeness in that moment:

1. You’re suffering. Your motivation is to get away from the pain or discomfort - whether it is physical or emotional - not because you’ve transformed and you’ve raised your standard but because you’re in reaction and you want to escape!

2. You want the symptom gone without you having to change anything about YOU.

3. You want someone to do it for you, or some magic solution to take you out of your experience.

4. You use words like “Always” and “Never” to keep yourself locked up. Now things are permanent. Always and never are a recipe for suffering: “This always happens to me. I never get what I want. It never works out for me. I’m always left behind. I’ll never have enough money. I’ll never have the relationship I want. I’m always screwing up.”

5. You find that you keep having “Problems”! When you are transforming there are challenges and opportunities, when you are awakening there are lessons and gifts…but problems are the experience that something is stopping you while you're running away.

6. You take things very personally. Somebody makes a little comment and suddenly it becomes all pervasive...so much bigger than it really is, and you feel victimized.

7. You feel like you have to let go of something. There’s nothing to let go of when you're transforming! You’re focused on grabbing the next trapeze bar, not letting go of the one you're holding. If you feel you need to let go of something, you’re never going to get rid of it. The way "out" is through Awareness, Acknowledgement and Acceptance of where you're at (Dr. Donny Epstein's Formula for Somatic Awareness).

8. You desire (whether consciously or subconsciously) constancy over growth and change. Your choices are out of safety and constancy - survival - the lowest level of human development.

The more congruent we become with who we really are and why we're really here, the more we transform the culture! When you find yourself running, stop and connect to YOU.

John
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