Is your child stressed out? Some people think only adults
experience stress, but it affects our children too. Here's
how to help your child manage their emotions.

We often view our kids as happy-go-lucky beings without a
care. But children can also experience stress. Not only do
they get anxious about things in their own young world--
school, friends, peer pressure--but they also can be deeply
affected by outside factors such as war, natural disasters
and other unsettling world events.

In fact, the list of contributors to childhood stress can
be quite long. Many stressors are the result of family
problems,
like divorce, a death or a parent's job loss but there are
also less obvious triggers such as moving to a new city or
the birth of a new sibling.

As a parent, you can become attuned to what's a normal
amount of anxiety for your child and what is not. If you
notice anything out of the ordinary, use the following
tools to help your child handle it better.

Top 5 Stress Reducers for Children

1. Tune in to their moods.

Pay attention to your child's behavior. Take the time to
talk to your child to get to the root of the problem.
Ask questions like "How are you feeling?" "What's happening
at school?" or "How are things with your friends?"
When you show concern for their problems and issues,
it's reassuring to them and they'll be more responsive to
that attention.

2. Watch the same shows they do.

If you have younger children, you certainly don't want them
watching the doom and gloom of daily news shows.
Children's minds are like sponges in they absorb almost
everything they see or hear. They are especially sensitive
to negative energy, pain or suffering. Shows like the
news can be traumatizing and anxiety-producing for younger
children.

It's important to discuss with them what they've seen.
You can't tell them that it's never going to happen to
them but you can say,"We're going to do everything we
can to protect you". It's also a good idea to let them
know whom to call and what to do in case of an emergency.

3. Focus on the positive.

There is obviously no way a child can be shielded from a
major trauma such as a death in the family, a house fire
or a natural disaster. Instead, help children count their
blessings. Comfort and reassure them by saying,
"We're strong and we're going to make it." "And as
difficult as it may be, try to maintain everyday routines.
For many young victims of floods or fire, for example,
going back to school, even in another city, can help bring
some normalcy back to their disrupted lives.
What can also help is to make sure children have positive
outlets like physical activity, going to the movies or
spending time with friends.

4. Lead by example.

Children often learn to deal with stress by mimicking how
you respond in challenging times. Even if you don't tell
your child that you're about to be laid off from your job
or that you're worried that your marriage is on the verge
of breaking up, they can still pick up on your stress.

They may not understand the underlying causes but they
can hear the strained tone and elevated volume of your
voice,which gives them the message that something's
going on that may affect them too.

That's why it's so important to show them good coping
skills. If you light a cigarette, have a drink, or use foul
language when you're under pressure, your little one may
internalize that as a coping method. Instead, model healthy
behavior during difficult times, such as writing in a
journal, de-stressing in a hot bath, sharing how you feel
without blaming, or taking a walk.

5. Instill confidence.

When children are young, there are times when you will have
to come to their defense and help them handle tough
situations. But as they get older, you also have to let them
champion themselves, which builds their confidence in
their ability to resolve problems on their own.

One of your missions as a parent is to know when to step in
and when to stand back. Your response will depend on the
child's temperament, maturity and the situation. For
example, your third grader may be able to confront a taunting
classmate on their own, but a serious case of bullying may warrant
your intervention.

Still, always make sure your child knows you've got their
back. Tell them, "Try it on your own first,but if you need help,
let me know and I'll be there."

Author's Bio: 

Michael Atma is an internationally known author, speaker
& success coach. Known as the person to talk to when you're
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