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If you’ve ever responded impulsively to a person or situation that triggered your anger, you’re familiar with the feeling of regret or guilt that followed your outburst. Once spoken, words cannot be taken back. Damage is done as soon as the words leave your lips. At best, the other person may ... Views: 6055
"The other night I ate at a real family restaurant. Every table had an argument going."
One of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger. When we fail to control our anger, we suffer several blows:
- Anger impedes our ability to be happy, because anger and happiness are ... Views: 6038
Anger Management skills can be helpful for people ranging from the mildly miffed to the violently vengeful. You do not need to be in a physically violent relationship to benefit from understanding and learning about communicating angry and hurt feelings constructively. Secondly, if you are ... Views: 5666
Louis shock turns to disbelief and anger
The world caved in on Louis when his girlfriend of three years ditched him, complaining he was ‘too needy!’ Louis had been the devoted boyfriend and caretaker. He did whatever she asked no matter what the cost to him. He cut out his friends and family. ... Views: 5664
What one single trait has been found to be healthier than self-esteem? Which trait has been shown to lead to more resiliency than self-esteem? What trait turns down the volume on negative emotions like guilt and self-loathing following a huge mistake?
Self-Esteem Is NOT the Answer We Thought ... Views: 5634
We all make mistakes in our thinking, especially when we're deeply convinced that something we believe in is true. These errors often reinforce that opinion, making it hard for us to change our minds or even consider any alternative viewpoint.
Students of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy know ... Views: 5618
Why Do We Need Time-Outs?
When your heart rate gets above about 100 beats per minute we as humans loose the capacity to think rationally with some exceptions: Athletes, soldiers, doctors, police, firefighters and the like are trained to handle situations where they have to function in high ... Views: 5592
Anger Management: The 5 Relationship Killers
At times, every marriage or significant relationship has times in which anger management would be helpful. Its pretty hard to live with someone and not get angry with them at some point. Interestingly, research has shown that its not the number of ... Views: 5589
Virginia Satir, pioneer in family therapy, was the first to describe a healthy, happy family and the poor coping strategies of families caught in dysfunction. Nowadays everyone seems to come from a dysfunctional family that dealt with the hard knocks of life by creating more confusion and pain. ... Views: 5469
New research may indicate that people who have higher levels of irritability or anger in response to mental stress may have a reduced oxygen supply to the heart. The findings suggest that anger may be a risk factor for heart disease and heart attacks.
Given these findings, it is important ... Views: 5445
I’ve been reflecting on the ways my experience of forgiveness has deepened and expanded since Sheri Rosenthal and I launched WITH Forgiveness on September 11, 2006. Here are my reflections:
What are you for giving? I recently noticed, when I was asked about forgiveness, that my thoughts ... Views: 5348
Let me just say this, I am a woman that can hold onto resentment!
When I feel I have been wronged, I will form a “frosty” attitude that not even a polar bear could stand it!
In recent times, however, first-hand experience has taught me that holding onto anger or wrapping myself in a ... Views: 5337
"Who's To Blame For Your Anger?"
Have you ever noticed how angry people seem to be? They can fly off the handle for the least little thing. Insignificant events become valid excuses to lash out at someone or something. The damage they do can be irreparable. The pain they can cause others is ... Views: 5182
"In my mind are thoughts that can hurt or help me. I am
constantly choosing the contents of my mind."
--Dr. Gerald Jampolsky
There are many ways of being addicted and many purposes an addiction serves. Addiction to anger ... Views: 5088
If you want to be happy in life, it is best to enjoy the little things, while also ignoring the little things. That sounds confusing at first, but let’s discuss what we mean. Life is full of problems, as you well know. However, we must stand back from ourselves sometimes and admit that what we ... Views: 5056
There is a over abundance of books, articles, and blogs written on the subject of gratitude but did you know that being grateful is actually an antidote to anger?
Gratitude is a conscious state of appreciation, the ability to feel good in the midst of difficulties and disappointments, and ... Views: 5042
Anger is what we all see. When someone is angry, it is obvious by the look in the person's eyes, the clinched fists, sweat on the brow, and loud voice...
Upon closer inspection, anger is like an iceberg. The tip represents the anger, which
everyone sees. However, there is 90% more of that ... Views: 5023
Do you ever open your mouth and say things that you later regret? How about what you say in the heat of anger? Do you often find yourself saying "I'm sorry" for what you've said? If so... you're not alone. In this article we answer the question: "How do I learn to stop and think before I ... Views: 5005
I have talked about getting people to listen, time outs and the rules of engagement. Today I am going to give you ten signs that the person you are talking to is flooded or overwhelmed and if they don’t calm down there may be trouble. They are at least not listening to you. Some of these you ... Views: 4904
Mindfulness is the practice of having a calm awareness of one's feelings, thoughts and experiences in the present moment, without judging them, or yourself, as good or bad. It means living in the moment and awakening to new experiences. It is part of the Zen mind, and It is one pathway to living ... Views: 4892
We cannot be a world at peace until we are first a people of peace.
—Janet Pfeiffer
I think it is fairly safe to say that at any given moment in our lives we have all encountered an angry individual: someone who may be yelling, threatening, ranting, or raging, someone who is out of control. How ... Views: 4884
If you want to lead your life peacefully, and let the anxieties not come to you, you must act like a ‘Filter’ not a ‘Sponge’. Do you know that your daily mood depends on what you talk to others and what the others talk to you? If you want to know, what motives are there, behind your good or bad ... Views: 4865
How do you best deal with your anger in the midst of an argument?
Anger is one of the most powerful emotions of which we know. Anger can overtake even the most emotionally intelligent and grounded person.
Anger is frequently a secondary emotion. This means anger often appears on the heels ... Views: 4845
Explosive Anger Disorder! (EAD). Or, Intermittent Rage Disorder (IRD). Take your pick of labels and/or abbreviations.
These are "new" labels in the lexicon of the psychologists and psychiatrists. (You should know that most such labels are made up in order to get paid by insurance companies, ... Views: 4763
We all experience having a short fuse at times, though some seem to have this more often. What’s really going on; and can two simple methods make a difference?
Thoughts that motivated my recent article, “Do You Experience Mixed Feelings About Being Patient and Tolerant?” didn’t stop when I ... Views: 4762
Anger appears when one is confronted with frustration, unhappiness or hurt feelings, or when plans don't turn out as desired. It also shows up when coming against opposition or criticism.
Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and can hurt your health, spoil your relationships, and ... Views: 4723
I Can’t Stand It - My Family Treats Me Like An ATM Machine!
How the hot button was created
Sharon helped her sister Ellisa prepare the party for their father's 80th birthday. As the guests left they thanked Ellisa and wished her father many more years of healthy life. Sharon drove home hurt ... Views: 4714
What makes it difficult for us men to recover from a divorce is an unpleasant feeling of anger. This feeling may be destructive yet it is natural. It is one of the stages of grief and is a phase you may find hard to overcome. In divorce, it is not as easy as getting rid of self-pity and recover ... Views: 4706
There is a significant difference between anger and rage. Anger can be viewed as a scale that ranges from minor irritation to intense rage. It can be very scary indeed when the scale tips toward rage. Most of us don’t have any idea what to do when someone we love becomes that angry. Do we ... Views: 4636
Check any listing of self-help groups, books or websites, and Anger management is likely to be given top billing. It has a bad smell, and it is frowned upon indiscriminately. Yet anger is one of our fundamental emotions, and it has a purpose and value. The survival and utility value of anger ... Views: 4635
Anger is a useful healthy emotions because it alerts us to the fact that something is bothering us. It is what we do with our anger that makes the difference between handling anger well or not.
Anger can be such an overwhelming emotion that people often feel that they are losing control. It ... Views: 4545
Our greatest fears are the result of what we do not understand. Our minds have the capacity to create the worst scenario possible for a given situation. This creates fear. Fear, more often than not, creates anger.
Fear of the unknown is akin to the fear of loss. When we don’t understand ... Views: 4521
We spend a major portion of our lives at work. No job comes with a stress-free tag. If we want to work we have to accept the stress, pressures and responsibilities associated with it. In simple words, you can’t have your cake and eat it too. The stress and pressure we face at work often gives ... Views: 4434
You can feel your blood pressure rising when someone cuts you off in traffic. You lie awake at night thinking about all of the ways a particular co-worker has ruined your chances for a promotion. You cannot forgive your parents for the cruel words that were repeatedly spoken to you as a child. ... Views: 4400
I have asked countless number of children “Is getting mad bad?” Very close to 100% answered yes. This has made me very curious as to the message we are presenting to children about anger. It has made me wonder how we adults express our anger and how that affects our children’s perspective ... Views: 4383
Happiness comes from a quiet mind. I wonder how many are still with me after reading that. Many will bail out. The world isn’t interested in a quiet mind. The world is interested in a noisy, agitated, worked-up mind. Is it any surprise most people in the world aren’t happy? Is it ... Views: 4353
In a relationship, anger can have destructive effects. A relationship expert especially a marriage counselor must look for effective techniques to deal with anger to help married couples to build and strengthen a caring, fulfilling and enduring relationship. Rage can have negative repercussions ... Views: 4347
Anger Management and Self-soothing
The Institute of HeartMath has developed an excellent exercise called “freeze-frame” which is ideal for self-soothing during your retreat time. The best part is while it only takes a couple of minutes to do it, the results can be quite astounding. The ... Views: 4333
Anger is one emotion we all have. For some of us anger is the primary way we express our needs when we get upset. What is interesting about anger is that it is usually a response to some other emotion we are having. Really give it some thought. Think about the last time you were really ... Views: 4266
The emotion of anger has many purposes, some of which can serve us well. Anger can be used by others to confuse or control you. In conflict resolution anger is a useful emotion when used to support yourself against attack by others. Anger takes away your energy, because it charges you ... Views: 4208
4 Steps to Teaching Your Family to Treat You Better
by Dr. Tony Fiore
Case #1- Elizabeth, a 40 year old homemaker was always feeling angry and “used” by her family, constantly saying that everybody took advantage of her. She felt that she worked like a slave but her family showed no ... Views: 4147
Living in the Shadow of the Past and the Power of Forgiveness
Like your shadow on the sidewalk when the sun shines behind you,holding onto painful past memories darkens each forward step which could instead be filled with light.
The above statement may seem obvious, and simple, but it is ... Views: 4145
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***Anger Power - by Margaret Paul, Ph.D., the Official Guide to Love
Does anger have power? Are you being powerful when you are angry? The answers to these questions depend on what you mean by power. Certainly you can intimidate many people with your anger - especially children or others who are physically weaker than you, or people who are terrified of ... Views: 4141
"Football is like life. It requires perseverance, self-denial, hard work, sacrifice, dedication and respect for authority. - Vince Lombardi, former NFL Coach
These words from immortal football legend Vince Lombardi are ingredients for successful living. Some individuals have lived for sports ... Views: 4141
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***Enhancing Our Brains Easily - by Barbara J. Stepp, Master Trainer of NLP, DHE®, No Fault Psychology™, Other than Conscious Communication™, Clinical Hypnotherapist
At 75 years of age and working with Brain Enhancement as a teacher, author and coach for 45 years, it has been and continues to be a delight to enhance my brain and help others do the same. It is really fun too! Don’t you love brain games?
A little over a year ago, I had a rare and ... Views: 4130
“The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath.” (The Buddha).
A little boy, prone to anger, was told by his father, “Every time you’re angry, drive a nail in that wooden fence. When you’ve learned to control your anger, start removing them.” Six months later, the boy had removed every nail ... Views: 4123
In a perfect world, there would be no con artists. No liars. No thieves. And no one would have to feel the anger and sadness that comes with getting taken advantage of. Of course, the world is not perfect and people are mistreated everyday. Fair? No. Reality? Yes.
That’s why it’s imperative ... Views: 4107
Counselling for Road Accident Trauma
After a road traffic accident people frequently experience problems such as anxiety, tearfulness, short-temper, difficulties sleeping. These and similar issues can stay with people for a long time after the accident. This can be an indication of ... Views: 4101
This Anger Contract was my response to the events chronicled in my previous post, "The Betrayal." A bogus Intervention had been done to me, and had forced me to get in touch with deep anger that I had been trying to release for several years. I knew I needed to do something radical to handle ... Views: 4074
Each day I hear from someone that their daughter is just not acting the way she should be. “something has changed, she is secretive, sneaky and not too much fun to be around.” Well depending on her age and your past relationship with her this may not be all bad. It is so hard for us as mothers ... Views: 4065