We all tend to live in our heads a bit too much, especially those of us who are thinkers, writers, computer techs, and other people who spend a lot of time in front of computer monitors. I've noticed that for me, if I don't make a conscious effort to come back into my body, I can get pretty ... Views: 13848
The big theme this month seems to be communication - both in my own relationship and for my clients. Why is communication so difficult? Whether it's with our families or our coworkers or our lovers, intentional discussions can be daunting. I want you to know that it's all right if you ... Views: 1915
I keep talking about being a Wanton Hussy - but what on earth do I mean? Why choose a pair of words with such convoluted histories, with shades of prostitution and sex-negativity, which echo thousands of years of virgin/whore opposition?
Because I love words. And while I won't say that I'm ... Views: 3925
Sometimes life just throws things at you, seemingly coincidentally, but with too much of a smack in the face to ignore. In the last week a song I haven't heard in years came up on a playlist - "21 Things I Want In A Lover," by Alanis Morissette - and then when I was moving around some old files ... Views: 1961
Once you've figured out what you want out of life, how can you get it? That's the million-dollar question, isn't it? It's also the really meaty part of the coaching process - coming up with a game plan to get you the pay raise, the fantastic career, the sexy body, the smokin' hot love life.
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I am often asked how to go about discussing fantasies with a partner. Aside from clarifying rules and coming up with safewords, how do you even get the conversation started? The simple answer is finding your courage and making a leap of faith that the world won't end if you tell your lover ... Views: 2070
Sometimes relationships get a little bit predictable, right? You know each other, you love each other, it seems like you've been together forever - or even longer. You have great sex, but sometimes it gets a little routine. And routine? Well, it's boring. It can be difficult to work up much ... Views: 3375
Sometimes, when you've been with your partner for a long time, the shine kind of wears off of your relationship. In fact, I might go so far as to say "always" rather than "sometimes" - shine gets a lot of its sparkle from the newness of discovering one another. Once you know each other it can ... Views: 1861
February's message - in fact, the message for all of 2009 - is about finding your yumminess. Take the time to do the things that make you happy! What could you to do treat yourself better, to romance yourself, to woo yourself? (Isn't that a great word? Woo!) You deserve to be happy, to meet ... Views: 2796
“How did a nice girl like you start writing smut?”
If I had a dollar for every time I’ve been asked that question... Well, let’s just say it’s a popular one, especially when the subject comes up at parties.
Instead of answering directly though, I like to take a step back. See, I’ve been ... Views: 3121
If you’ve ever wondered what the real difference is between that incredibly hot, well-dressed, popular woman with the big nose that everyone wants to go to bed with and the far-more-beautiful girl hiding in the corner, I have the answer: body image.
What we perceive as attractiveness is often ... Views: 1635
Do you want your next year to include sexual fulfillment? Do you want to improve communication, change your body image, and make more time for fun? What if you could create or welcome into your life a new relationship reality? The Winter Solstice, the time when the new Sun is born, is an ... Views: 3498
Eggnog and glitter, champagne and faux fur. Parties scheduled for every Friday, Saturday, Sunday, and Monday. Ice sickles, satin ribbons, candles, and black leather take on new possibilities in your deviant little mind. Mistletoe seems like the best invention Mother Nature ever came up with. ... Views: 1609